The Meyers-Briggs type indicator was established in 1944. The type indicator is a way to see in to your personality and to see how you see the world and people around you. There are 16 different combinations you can get. If you have never taken the test, here is the link to do so. I am an INFJ, which means I am introverted, intuitive, feeling and judging. INFJ's make up 1 percent of the world's population, making us some of the most misunderstood people. Here are 10 struggles that every INFJ experiences.
1. Most of our favorite people are fictional
Harry Potter, Hazel Grace Lancaster and Margo Roth Spiegelman, just to name a few. INFJ's are very creative people, so we live for reading and the adventure that comes with it.
2. We are the extroverted introverts
We care about other people and enjoy having fun with people (to an extent). When we are invited out and the answer is no, our friends are confused, because to them we are extroverts.
3. We struggle with sleeping
We have creative minds, so they are always questioning the universe or thinking of new ideas. (I'm writing this at 2 a.m.) The mind never stops working.
4. We feel the need to apologize for pretty much any emotion or need that we outwardly express
I tend to do this a lot at work. If something goes wrong, I have to apologize even if it's not my fault or the situation was out of my control. If I start to cry in front of people, I apologize. I can't tell you why, but INFJ's are overly apologetic.
5. Hating conflict but having people constantly come to you with their conflicts
I hate conflict and I try to avoid it at all costs, but INFJ's are the best at listening and giving advice. The most fitting job for an INFJ is a counselor, but we still hate conflict.
6. Needing close relationships in order to be happy, but also needing a lot of alone time in order to be happy
I love spending time with friends. They make me feel loved and important but once I am with my friends, I feel the need to be alone. Too much time with people stresses me out, especially if we are out in public. My best friend is not an INFJ, She's far from it. When we go to movies or to stores you can see her dancing to whatever song is playing. I let her do her own thing but in my head i'm going "Can you not draw attention to us?"
7. We kind of fit in everywhere but really we fit in nowhere
I struggle with this one a lot. I have work friends, friends from high school and I'm in a sorority. So, yes, I have friends but I am always the friend that gets left out because I really don't fit in even though I fit in.
8. Accidentally creating ridiculous standards for other people in your mind and then being disappointed when they fail to live up to them
This is not just for others, This is for myself as well. I always set high standards for people and I know that they could be too high but I expect people to meet them and I am always frustrated when they are not met. We are perfectionists and I find this at times to be very anoying.
9. We are idealistic and realistic
Our brains work in very creative ways. We can imagine a perfect society, but at the same time we understand all of the reasons a perfect society will never exist.
10. We don't want a traditional lifestyle
Most people want money and things. INFJ's want memories and experiences. Trying to find people that think the same way as us is hard. I mean, INFJ's are 1 percent of the population.
