7 Struggles Of Being The Girl Who Is "Not Skinny" But Also "Not Fat"

7 Struggles Of Being The Girl Who Is "Not Skinny" But Also "Not Fat"

Society teaches us to not let people label us, but we all know that we do.

Because we all need another reason to overthink!

1. Constantly overthinking comments like "You look so thin!"

Overthinking Mind: "Do I really look that thin? I haven't lost any weight. I've actually haven't gained weight either but I can't look that different. Are they just trying to be nice? People only comment on how thin people look when they used to be fat. Do they think I'm fat? Or at least did I used to be?"

2. Jeans.

Because asking a girl who isn't skinny but isn't fat what size they wear is impossible to answer. Our weight fluctuates so much that we could be taking a different size every other week.

3. Wondering how people label you.

Okay, let's be honest. Society teaches us to not let people label us, BUT we all know that we do. We wonder what people think of us, and us "not skinny, not fat" girls wonder how people label our body. Skinny? Fat? Average? On a scale of 1-10 would you be higher if you were skinnier? Maybe they don't think anything of us, but they probably do.

4. You can't categorize yourself with the standard body types.

Apple, pear, hourglass or rectangle... None of them suit you. How do you label a person who has short, muscular, but not thin legs, a bit of a stomach, curves with no bones sticking out, no breasts but only weighs 150 pounds?

5. Going dress shopping.

Do I even have to explain how difficult it is to shop for a dress? Do I get a dress that flows to hide my hips, or do I get a more form fitting dress to show off my tiny waist? What about my legs? I don't want people to see above my knees but my calves are okay... Ugh.

6. Online Shopping.

Just no.

7. Feeling Insecure.

You're not skinny, but you're not fat. So what are you supposed to think of yourself?

Cover Image Credit: Katie Frego

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.


So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?



Cover Image Credit: High school Musical

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