Being a blunt person in a world of hidden agendas has its perks, but it can also be a struggle. Here are a few of the struggles that a blunt person faces.
Suffering through the obligatory small talk.
I can see what the weather is like. Tell me about your childhood, your passions, or your goals in life. Tell me about your walk with the Lord. Tell me about what you have overcome and what you are still struggling with. Can we please skip past the "I’m fine, how are you -- nice weather we’re having" conversation and talk about something with more meaning?
Scaring off potential dates.
Blunt people are straight shooters. They will not ask a potential date, “So, how are you today?” in order to find out whether or not they are still going on a date. Instead, they will say something along the lines of, “So, are we going on this date, or nah?” This straight forwardness will usually scare off the potential date.
Flirting.
Different facial expressions and phrases apparently have hidden agendas which is why flirting is a mystery to the blunt person. In attempting to flirt, the blunt person will probably say something embarrassing like, “Hey -- your face -- I like it. So, dinner?”
Drama.
The blunt person rarely has problems with drama. If they hear a rumor, they find the source and shut it down. If they do not like what someone said, they let that someone know. They hold others accountable, and they expect their friends to do the same for them. When the blunt person finds him/herself in the midst of drama, they have no idea how to deal with it.
Giving advice.
Giving advice can be frustrating for the blunt person. Most issues can be solved very simply, but the less blunt friends will either not like what they hear, or lack the courage to take action. Blunt people are brutally honest, so ask one for advice at your own risk.
Not sugarcoating anything.
“Why won’t you go out with me?”
“Because I don’t want to.”
Wasted time.
One of the most frustrating things to a blunt person is wasted time. Wasted time can easily be avoided by openness and honesty. If you are not going to take the person on a date, let the person know. If you do not want to hang out with someone, let the person know.
If you do not have enough time to go through with the plans you have made, let the person know. If you do not like someone the same way that they like you, let them know. This way they are not sitting around waiting for you. Stop wasting people’s time. It is annoying.
As a blunt person, I wish that everyone was more straight-forward. Honesty is important. Why sugarcoat it?
