Being sarcastic is both a blessing and a curse. Just like any other habit, it can have its ups and downs. The dictionary definition of sarcasm is “the use of irony to mock or convey content.” Sure, sarcasm can definitely be used as a source of cruelty toward someone, but that does not mean that everyone who is sarcastic is trying to be mean. Often times, people use sarcasm and irony as a type of protection — a security blanket, if you will. I know that I can count myself as one of these people.

Sarcasm is basically second nature to me. I usually don’t even realize when I’m using it anymore, but don’t worry, I can always count on someone to call me out on it. It is my last intention to be unkind to others; however, my sarcasm often seems to contradict this idea. I know that some of my comments can seem a little rude at some points, but I would never want to hurt someone intentionally. My sarcastic language has become a shield for me. I frequently use sarcasm as a mask to cover up the real me. It has always been the easiest way out of certain situations. It helps me to become more comfortable when things seem a little awkward.

Nevertheless, I also know that my sarcasm has affected my life in negative ways as well. Since I use sarcasm as a cover up for the lack of comfort I have with myself, people often have a hard time reading me. They are never sure when I am being serious and when I am joking around. Yeah, just a slight problem. Therefore, I have found it fairly difficult to make and keep certain relationships. I’m sure that this is an issue for individuals of the ironic language across the board. Even the slightest tone of sarcasm in our voice can trigger the question of whether we are being genuine or not. Let me tell you, this can create a very unsettling feeling for us sarcastic people.

The truth is, sarcastic people (for the most part) do not intend to be mean or degrading. We are people. We do have hearts. We may need a little bit more warming up to when you first meet us, but I promise that we are worth the extra effort. Most of us are just longing for someone to take the time to dig deep beneath our dense layer of sarcasm and understand the real person hiding inside.

So, to those whom I have hurt with my sarcasm: I am truly sorry. I never meant to offend anyone and I can honestly say that I’ve hurt myself as well by damaging what could have been a good relationship.

Now, to those who have endured my inconsiderate and sarcastic comments and have stuck my side: thank you. It takes an extraordinary person to listen to my ironic thoughts, so you’re great.

So, take a chance on us. We may seem a little hard to deal with at times, but you will eventually learn how to tolerate us. Plus, the charm and humor that comes with associating with a sarcastic person is inevitable!

Who knows? We might even like you.