Stop Romanticizing Joe Goldberg, He's No Dan Humphrey

Please Stop Romanticizing Joe Goldberg From 'You,' He's No Dan Humphrey

He's pretty much a psychopath.


This article contains spoilers for Netflix's "You" and the CW's "Gossip Girl."

Spotted: lonely boy becoming mentally incompetent, abusive, and going on a killing spree. People still love him though.

Netflix's new show "You" stars Penn Badgley as Joe Goldberg, a bookstore manager and an extreme stalker. For all of my "Gossip Girl" fans out there, the role does remind me intensely of resident lonely boy Dan Humphrey with the view of a deeper meaning in life and artistic words in the illustrious New York City. While I believe that he does genuinely care about and love his object of obsession Guinevere Beck, it is to the point where it is dangerous and unhealthy from the moment he laid eyes on her in Mr. Mooney's and has turned into an obsession. Whenever I think of him, his theme song to me would Patience and Prudence's "Tonight You Belong To Me" and guess what? That song played in episode six.

Let's start at the beginning. Joe meets Beck in the bookstore and they bond over their shared love of literature. Like anyone does in the technological age, psychopath lonely boy completely creeps on the NYU student's social media pages, learning about her family and the life that she portrays online. That isn't even the worst part.

Goldberg talks to Beck in his head, talking about when they get together and how he will be the guy she needs. Joe follows her home and spies on her through large windows in Beck's place of residence. He lurks in the background when she goes out with her friend group and jerks off in a bush on a public street when he eyes Beck masturbating after a not-so-satisfying sexual encounter with her periodical boyfriend Benji. He steals her phone after saving her from falling onto the subway tracks and keeps it to peak on her activity on her new phone. Joe even gets angry when he feels that Beck is disrespecting their relationship and him before they were even officially together.

Joe decides he needs to eliminate every threat that comes between his relationship with Beck as he genuinely believes he knows what is best for her and decides to lock Benji up in the basement of the bookstore where the room is set at a certain temperature and lighting to keep from damaging old and classic pieces of work. While Beck and her friends begin to worry about Benji's disappearance, Joe takes his phone and posts a picture to Instagram that mirrored him past out at a raging party. He then on posts on his victim's Twitter to not raise any suspicion.

When Benji lists his allergies to peanuts and gluten, the bookstore manager decides to give the soft drink maker a coffee with peanut oil, therefore killing him.

Beck's best friend Peach knew there was something off about Joe Goldberg from the start. She blamed him when her classic "Ozma of Oz" book and laptop were missing and even though her accusations were correct, Joe returned the book and the laptop to make it seem as she simply misplaced the items. He finds albums of pictures of Beck on Peach's laptop with some of them of the blonde being nude. Joe concludes that Peach is in love with her best friend and she must be eliminated.

He attempts to kill her by smashing her head with a rock while she is running but she only ends up with a concussion and does not remember that Joe attacked her.

When Peach and Beck go on vacation for a few days, Joe just has to come along for the ride. No one knows if he is there, of course. Beck leaves the vacation early and Peach realizes Joe is there.

She points her gun at him, but in the end, Goldberg shoots her and writes her suicide note.

There is also the untold stories of Joe's ex-girlfriend Candace who apparently went off the radar to Italy and the bookstore's owner, Mr. Mooney. Through flashbacks and hallucinations, we see that Joe was also extremely jealous and possessive of Candace as he is with Beck. Mr. Mooney used to hit Joe and has stated he has had problems with his mother while talking to neighbor Paco so maybe that's some explanation as to why Joe is just a little messed up in the head. He was even horribly offended that Beck had to go therapy to talk over the "suicide" of Peach instead of just going to him. He goes to the exact same therapist, but that's not even the worst part.

Joe murders Beck!!!

The apple of his eye, his one true love, the woman who he killed for just so that their relationship would be without fault! He committed manslaughter in cold blood and tried to blame the deed on the former couple's mutual therapist Dr. Nicky whom he sincerely believed that Beck was cheating on him with. There is definitely a fine line between love compared to obsession and wanting someone all to yourself that you kill them instead.

Fans are defending Goldberg, saying he's only doing everything out of love and just wants a happy ending for himself and Beck. That's going to be a little hard now since she is dead. The cast of the show tries their hardest to remind fans that Joe should not be idolized and he is not the hero either.

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We can forgive Dan for being Gossip Girl, but I just can't forgive Joe Goldberg for being an extreme psychopath murderer or romanticize him. Please notice red flags and stay safe out there. Privacy settings on social media are your friend!

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36 Rules Of Life From 'NCIS's' Leroy Jethro Gibbs

Sometimes we all need a smack on the back of the head.

I have been watching "NCIS" since the show began back in 2003, and season 15 will be airing this September. It is one of the longest running series and for a good reason, even though a lot of your favorite characters die off in the show they somehow still keep it alive. Anyone who has watched an episode or more knows about the infamous Gibbs's rules. Here's the list that we can gather from the many episodes:

Rule 1: "Never let suspects stay together." - revealed in the Season 1 premiere episode, Yankee White (episode).

Rule 2: "Never screw over your partner." - revealed in the Season 4 episode, Blowback (episode). McGee also stated this rule to Ned Dorneget in Need to Know (episode). McGee also mentioned to Abigail Borin in Ships in the Night (episode) that rule number one has been taken twice, showing that he knows that there are two number one rules.

Rule 3: "Always wear gloves at a crime scene." - revealed in "Yankee White."

Rule 4: "Don't believe what you're told. Double check." - again revealed in "Yankee White."

Rule 5: "Never be unreachable." - revealed in the Season 3 episode, Deception (episode) although Gibbs has been known to be intentionally unreachable. The rule was shown in Rule Fifty-One (episode) in the background when Gibbs opens the box.

Rule 6: "The best way to keep a secret? Keep it to yourself. Second best? Tell one other person - if you must. There is no third best." - revealed in the Season 4 episode, Blowback (episode)

Rule 7: "You don't waste good." - revealed in the Season 8 episode, Baltimore (episode).

Rule 8: "Never say you're sorry. It's a sign of weakness." - This rule has been mentioned throughout the series, but it wasn't given a specific number until Flesh and Blood (episode). The rule is also a direct reference to John Wayne's catch phrase in "She Wore A Yellow Ribbon" (John Ford, Director). Wayne said: "Never apologize, mister, it's a sign of weakness." to subordinates in a military situation. DiNozzo notes the connection in Hiatus Part 1 (episode). Mark Harmon's career has paralleled John Wayne's. They both were quarterback of their southern California college football team, both went into acting. (Harmon's father, Tom Harmon, was a Heisman Trophy-winner and actor & announcer as well.) Note: This is continuously told to Tony, Ziva and Tim through a smack to the back of their heads.

Rule 9: "Always be specific when you lie." - revealed in the Season 1 finale episode, Reveille (episode).

Rule 10: "Never take anything for granted." - revealed in the Season 3 episode, Probie (episode) although Gibbs also quotes it as being "Never assume" during the Season 9 episode, Rekindled (episode).

Rule 11: "Never go anywhere without a knife." - revealed in the Season 1 episode, One Shot, One Kill (episode)although it's sometimes quoted as "Never leave home without a knife" or "Always carry a knife."

Rule 12: "Never get personally involved in a case." - revealed in the Season 7 episode, Obsession (episode) and again referenced by the new SECNAV Clayton Jarvis in the Season 9 premiere episode, Nature of the Beast (episode) as the number one rule in Washington politics.

Rule 13: "When the job is done, walk away." - revealed in the Season 6 episode, Semper Fidelis (episode).

Rule 14: "Never date a co-worker." - revealed in the Season 1 episode, Enigma (episode).

Rule 15: "Never, ever involve lawyers." - revealed in "Collateral Damage." Rule 51 is written on the back of the card containing Rule 13 in "Rule Fifty-One."

Rule 16: "Bend the line, don't break it." - revealed in Anonymous was a Woman (episode).

Rule 17: "Always work as a team." - revealed in Leap of Faith (episode).

Rule 18: "If someone thinks they have the upper hand, break it." - revealed in the Season 8 finale episode, Pyramid (episode).

Rule 19: "Never, ever interrupt Gibbs during an interrogation." - revealed in the Season 14 episode, Privileged Information (episode).

Rule 20: "It's better to seek forgiveness than ask permission." - revealed in Silver War (episode).

Rule 21: "Always look under." - revealed in The Artful Dodger (episode)

Rule 22: "Never ever bother Gibbs in interrogation." - revealed in Smoked (episode).

Rule 23: "Never mess with a Marine's coffee... if you want to live."- revealed during "Forced Entry."

Rule 24: "There are two ways to follow someone. First way, they never notice you. Second way, they only notice you." - Jack Knife (episode) and "Rule Fifty-One."

Rule 25: "When you need help, ask." - revealed during Blood Brothers (episode).

Rule 26: "Always watch the watchers." - revealed in "Baltimore."

Rule 27: "If you feel like you are being played, you probably are." - revealed in Nature of the Beast (episode).

Rule 28: "Your case, your lead." - revealed in Bounce (episode) placing Tony as temporarily in charge of the team, and also in Phoenix (episode) with Ducky as leader.

Rule 29: "There is no such thing as coincidence." - revealed in Obsession (episode) although DiNozzo states that Rule 39A is "There is no such thing as a small world" during Canary (episode).

Rule 30: "If it seems like someone is out to get you, they are." - revealed in Borderland (episode).

Rule 31: "Never accept an apology from someone who just sucker punched you." - revealed in Psych Out (episode).

Rule 32: "First things first, hide the women and children." - This rule number was mentioned in Patriot Down (episode) but was not stated until Rule Fifty-One (episode).

Rule 33: "Clean up the mess that you make." - revealed in "Rule Fifty-One" although it's also stated as "Never leave behind loose ends" in Hiatus Part 2 (episode).

Rule 34: "Sometimes you're wrong." - Created by Gibbs in Rule Fifty-One" by writing it on the back of the card containing Rule 13. It is unknown if his coworkers are aware of this rule.

Rule 35: "Always give people space when they get off an elevator." - revealed in Double Back (episode)

Rule 36: "Never trust a woman who doesn't trust her man." - revealed in Devil's Triangle (episode).

While some seem to deal with Gibbs only there are some very great life lessons present. If you haven's started watching "NCIS" I suggest you start soon, it is all on Netflix.

"A slap to the face is an insult - a slap to the back of the head is a wake-up call." Leroy Jethro Gibbs
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'Jane The Virgin' Season Five Made Me Hate Jane

Season five has ruined Jane Gloriana Villanueva.


SPOILER WARNING: This article contains spoilers for "Jane the Virgin"

Now, for all the super fans left, let me preface this article by saying that I love "Jane the Virgin." The show itself has brought a large piece of Latinx culture to an American audience in a way that is both educational and thrilling. Somehow, the writers of this modern Telenovela managed to find the balance between "soap opera" drama and modern TV drama.

However, while the show itself remains captivating, its main character has lost her luster. In other seasons, Jane proved to be an honest, selfless young woman. One of the prime examples of this is when she tells Michael she is pregnant instead of just accepting his proposal and dealing with the consequences later.

In seasons one through four, Jane was, as expected, caught up in the drama, but she always tried to put others before herself. She was fiercely protective of her mother and abuela as well as her son, Mateo. She was eager to help a struggling Petra, though Petra was nothing but rude to her.

Season five Jane is a different story.

This Jane perpetuates the idea that it is OK to play with someone's feelings, that she is right in dangling a relationship over both Raphael and Michael's heads. She claims that she doesn't know what she feels, that she has feelings for both Raphael and Michael. That she can't just run from her feelings for Michael.

She preaches that "love" is only an emotion. That it is ONLY felt. That because she "feels" something still there with Michael, she must still love him.

Sorry to break it to you Jane, but love isn't just a feeling. Love is a choice. It's a struggle. It's a fight you'll never stop fighting. It's a race you'll never get tired of running or when you do, you'll take a long drink of water and keep going.

Quite frankly, the way in which Jane treats her relationship with both men is emotional abuse. It is not only affecting the adults, but also the children as Mateo begins acting out and Ana and Ellie are convinced Raphael is taking drugs. While toying with the hearts of two men she cares about, she is also placing a wedge between herself and her son.

It seems stupid to be so opinionated about a silly TV show like "Jane the Virgin," but I know what it's like to be the second choice, then the first choice, then second again. Always wondering if you'll be good enough the next time, what you could have done better, how you could be different. Jane's actions in the final season only perpetuate the idea that it's OK to play with someone's emotions and that love is only a feeling. If you don't feel it, you don't have it.

Disclaimer: I am totally Team Raphael (if that wasn't obvious enough in this article), but here's why: Jane and Michael's relationship was based on "feeling." It "felt" magical. Raphael and Jane were not "love at first sight' but grew to love and accept one another. To me, this is the beautiful story. This is the real story of love.

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