So many people spend so much time trying to "get a boyfriend," or waste time being someone they're not to get people to like them. Here's some of my advice for self-care in relationships, and why you shouldn't worry.
The "Why Not?" in Dating:
Why not? Like what's the worst that could happen?
If you think it could be a good time and you are happy with yourself, why not be happy with someone else as well? Just don't forget about your friends or about yourself. Don't ever go into a dangerous relationship either, and if it seems to be, try to get out as soon as possible.
Remember to love yourself before others. But if you are going to date, be sure to make sure you're compatible and you are satisfied in the friendship area first. Don't date someone you don't know; learn more about them and don't caught in the positives of a person or be blinded by the negatives. Be aware that everyone has problems, and don't poison yourself by being in a relationship with a negative person that will ruin you and the people around you.
Make sure you are comfortable with this person and that they can be another outlet for you, but not your only outlet. You still have friends and family and others that love and care about you as much as, if not ten times more than this person ever might if it doesn't work out. Also, trust your gut. If you can't even hold a fluid, natural conversation, that's probably a sign that it won't work out. It it isn't working out, end it. Don't be hopeful for too long. You had your fun and good times. It's probably time to wait a while and continue on with your life.
Don't be the one to post a bunch of negative relationship thoughts online. Don't be afraid to post too many happy things either.
You'll never know until you try.
"Why doesn't anyone like me?"
Don't waste your life waiting for someone to fall in love with you, or "like you back," or whatever the thought process is there. If something doesn't seem natural, and you're forcing it--especially through apps like Tinder--then why waste your time? You can't make anyone like you, and if somehow you can, don't. Do you really want someone to only like you because you manipulated them? That seems intense, but it's the truth.
You don't need to be a perfect split of "better halves," but you should even each other out. Stop focusing on your type. Stop looking for love. The best is always yet to come, and your life knows exactly what you need.
The best surprises are the ones that come when you aren't expecting them.
