The greatest cliche known to us is the term "Love is Blind". I say this because recently I have experienced a great deal heat due to my love life. It seems as though because I have dated outside of my race, I must hate myself for being a Black woman. Which could not be further from the truth.
What truly bothers me is when people within my own race call me racist or more derogatory terms simply due to the fact that the men that I have been involved with romantically have only been white. It is shocking to believe that that is a thought that crosses people’s mind when a black girl/woman dates outside of her race. “Oh she must not like being black”. Oddly enough for those who do not approve of my interracial escapades is that I love being black and I love myself.
Why is it that when a black man says “oh I only date white women” if a black woman gets upsets about it she is falling into the “stereotype” that those men do not like about black women, yet if a black woman was to say “I only date white men” all hell breaks loose. I have personally been told mainly by black men “you are just giving into slave master dating that white boy”. I don’t see how saying I don’t discriminate when it comes to love makes me a racist towards my own people, says that I hate myself, or makes me the puppet of slave master.
The beauty about love is that anyone can feel it and it can be expressed in many ways. There are no limitation as to who you can and can’t fall in love with. That is the beauty of the country we live in. we are allowed to freely be ourselves when it comes to love. But for someone to still ridicule individals solely due to the fact that one is white and the other is black is baffling to me.
Also judgments of interracial couples is not only limited to black and white relationships. And couple that mixes between races is viewed at as something crazy. It is strange to believe that people truly believe that two people cannot really have a happy relationship because they of different races. it also seems as though people are always fearful to break away from social norms because they do not want judgments to be passed.
Although this is cliché to say, but love truly is blind. When you love someone you don’t love them solely based on the color of their skin. You love them for the person that they are, how they treat you, and the wonderful time that you both spend together. Why limit the love you will find solely due to the fact that you “don’t date outside your race” don’t you think that is about as silly as saying “I don’t date people with blonde hair”. Do not limit yourself to fit into social norms
