Nothing is more frustrating than being cursed with the typical, yet misunderstood, resting bitch face.
For those of you who believe you "get" us, or who think you understand what our expression means, you are wrong. If I have learned anything about having a resting bitch face, it is that everyone will assume the worst of you. They will believe that you are a cruel, judgmental human being and they will call you out for it. But they're dead wrong.
What I have come to understand is that everyone makes assumptions about us. I cannot keep track of the amount of people who have set me down and told me that my facial expression says it all, and that they can tell if I am judging them. I have become so accustomed to their own judgmental self that I set back and nod my head because they will not believe me when I tell them that's not what I am thinking. And the worst part? Is when they tell me that they can read my expressions. I'm just going to shut that down right now, because no one can actually tell what my facial expression means unless they have known me for years or magical can read minds.
I found that anyone who has ever decided to call me out for seeming judgmental is almost always contradicting themselves. Never once do they realize they are calling out my personality and judging me for being myself. I have come to believe that everyone is judgmental; some of us are just more open about it than others. I am the type of person who likes to be more open about it and am constantly called out on it. To be clear, I am openly judging my roommate when she comes into the room asking for her opinion on her outfit, and therefore, I will tell her if it looks good or not and how she can look even better. I am the type of friend who will openly tell my best friend when she needs to ditch the boy because he's kind of shitty. I am openly honest and judgmental in the best ways.
For those of you who do not see it that way, you are just as "bad" as I am. We are all secretly a little brazen, just some of us are more so than others. I simply see myself as being honest with those around me and for those who understand that, that is the kind of person I respect in my life. There is ,however, a fine line of people who go out of their way to put people down on purpose; that is not me. So, before you look at my face and assume that I am some kind horrible kind of person, you should know I am quite the opposite. Instead, I am honest at only the appropriate times.
When you see my resting bitch face, or anyone else's, make sure you know what kind of judgmental human they are before you make an assumption about us. Because that can hurt our feelings just as much as you assume we are "trying" to intentionally do to you. Don't judge a book by it's cover. Don't judge my personality by my facial expressions.
