It’s easy to bend over backwards for the people you care about most in your life. Making sure they feel loved and appreciated becomes a priority because of how important they are to you. Although, how can you be sure that they would do the same for you?
I can easily say I am the person that would drop anything for my friends if they needed me. Time after time I have created relationships with people where this was not something we shared in common. Everyone’s personalities are different but why break your back for a person that wouldn’t even give a second thought of putting you on their back burner. You deserve better than that, everyone deserves to be treated the way they treat others.
Now I’m not saying that I expect my friends to hand me the world on a silver platter, but if every time they call I answer regardless of the time of day I would like to think I could call them at the crack of dawn if I needed them to lend an ear.
Coming to the terms that some people just care less about certain relationships is a hard task to do. Friendships of mine have ended because I stopped putting in the effort that they never returned to me. My life never stopped moving because of this, I simply accepted it and went on to make friendships that were worth my time and efforts.
If you find yourself bringing coffee to a friend at 2 am during finals week, answering a phone call from a friend who needs a ride, or going overboard for a friend who loves celebrating their birthday; don’t feel guilty. Just hope that you picked a friend who appreciates the efforts you make to stay in their lives and hope that they would do the same; if they won't move on because down the road you will meet someone who will.