Everybody has expectations in a relationship. We all need to be treated the way we deserve to be treated. Toxic relationships are all too common these days, and it is very sad. However, please keep in mind that you cannot expect perfection. And quite frankly, some of your relationship goals are ridiculous. Put down the pitchforks and let me explain.
Communication, mutual love, and memories are the core components of a healthy relationship. In my opinion, not much else matters, so let me tell you why you should not listen to social media when it comes to relationships.
Seems like a normal convo, right? Nothing seems to be wrong here, however Twitter would tell you that you're insane. The caption for this tweet is: "Boyfriend test: failed".
Wow, lovely. We have resorted to "testing" our partners instead of actually being mature.
And also, your partner is not a mind-reader. I gotta ask: why aren't people just straightforward? If you want your partner to keep texting you, FREAKING TELL THEM AND STOP THE MIND GAMES. It really sucks how you have to question what a person's words really mean, and have to wonder if they're "testing" you and expecting to take their hint.
I once saw a picture on Twitter with the caption "where can I find a boyfriend like this" and the picture consisted of MULTIPLE makeup products from Sephora that had to at least cost 300 plus dollars, and a Pandora ring. I'm sorry, I must have missed the memo. Since when does a partner have to spend hundreds of dollars on you to prove that he loves you?
I am a college student. I have to be very mindful about conserving my money. My boyfriend probably would feel the same way. Yes, gifts are nice. But you know the phrase "it's the thought that counts"? If your significant other doesn't spend hundreds of dollars on you, relax. Be realistic here. It's okay to split the check. Shocking, huh? It's almost like we are young and have no real job or our own house with annual income yet. If you expect your partner to just pay for everything that you want and get you ridiculously expensive gifts, it could cause problems.
"If your bf doesn't show you off on social media, is he really your bf?"
Yes, believe it or not. I'm sorry, but social media is not the be all end all. It's okay if a couple doesn't post pictures of them on Instagram 24/7. In fact, from my personal experience, the couples that constantly talk about how in love with each other they are for all of their followers to see are the ones that usually don't end up working out. Now this is just a theory, but couples that do that are insecure within their own relationship, so they look to their followers for approval and for that gained confidence. If you are secure about your relationship, you wouldn't have to constantly shove it down everyone's throat.
Everyone's relationship is different, I understand. But maybe having high expectations and letting social media tell you how to think might be the reason why your relationship is failing. You may order takeout with your partner sometimes instead of going to a fancy restaurant. You may leave people wondering why the two of you are MIA on social media. You may have to be honest with you partner about things. That's okay.
