Your past? Your future? Does it define you? It might have built you up, strengthened you, or it might have even made you build a wall, so that nobody gets in and hurts you. Do we just spend our entire lives planning things out? We get totally stressed when something is not the way we wanted it to turn out. This psychological thing that has broken you or lifted you up, giving you complete anxiety. Every one has a a story of their life so far. A lot of people that are depressed are because they live in their past. A lot of people that look into the future and try to plan every thing out, makes them have anxiety.
So I have the perfect answer on how to live, and it is very difficult. Of course I have to take you through a little backstory. I remember being completely depressed in high school, going through a lot of things most people cannot imagine between diagnoses, a huge loss of a dear family member and of course, many other things. I remember sitting in my science class and listening to the most impactful words that changed everything. My teacher (keeping his name private), said,
“If you learn anything in this class, learn to live in the present.”
How right he was! I do not live in the past, I do not live in the future. I will get depressed, and I will become beyond anxious. For what this generation is facing, and all the crazy incidents going on in the world, it would behoove us to live in the present. Live now, before we get too old. Stop all this planning, because honestly plans never work out the way you want them too. Stop going back into your past story, making yourself sad. For God's sake, take action when something happens!
Yes I know I talk about living the life you want and other inspirational things, but this is one of the most important things for you mental health. Literally let go, take a breather, because you cannot control everything. If you try to control the things you can’t, trust me you will fall apart.
I started living this way in the beginning of the summer, it is really difficult. Human beings are emotional creatures, we tend to go back and tell our stories to others in order to relate to them. This is totally normal, but I am so done with the phrases,
“Your past defines you,” or “Wow, you changed.”
What kind of crap is that? That seems so negative. My past does not define me, because I was a different person back then. We change constantly, because we learn consistently. Your past makes you stronger, it does not define the person reading this right now, because you are changing. So why not live in the present, why not stop all of the backtracking. Stop the regrets. The present is more fun anyway. Start living your story, because it is not published yet.
More later, darlings. Always a pleasure.
