If you are one of the people defending "13 Reasons Why". If you’re tired of people complaining about the show. Then you’re defending a show, made for teens, that perpetuates rape culture, bullying, white supremacy, athletic supremacy, teacher and government unreliability, victim blaming, school shootings and (revenge) suicide. From this point on, please read with caution if you are triggered easily.
When the show was first released I thought it would be a beacon to those who struggle and for teachers and parents to start conversations with their children. That was until I saw Hannah Baker slitting her wrists on television. Until I watched the blood and life drain from this 16-year-old girl's body. Until I watched Hannah Baker and Jessica Davis get raped. I watched teachers stand idly by as Hannah Baker cried out for help. She wrote a suicidal poem. She went to the guidance counselor. She asked for help and no one took the time to stop and ask if she was okay. Proving that even if you ask for help, it doesn’t mean people will help you. I watched as she blamed everyone around her for her suicide. Slowly turning her death into a revenge suicide which tells kids that it’s okay to blame everyone for their struggles.
I knew I didn’t want to watch the second season, however, I did because I felt it was my duty to see how the media is portraying suicide and depression. Needless to say, I was disappointed.
I got to watch Hannah Baker and Jessica Davis get raped all over again. I watched as Clay Jensen blamed countless girls for their rapes. I watched a 17-year-old shoot up with heroin and nearly choke to death on his own vomit with a heroin needle in his arm. I saw kids taking molly to feel good, showing kids that drugs aren’t that bad.
I got to see a rapist walk free with parole, despite the countless accusations and evidence piled against him, because he is white and “he’s already lost his scholarships, I think that’s punishment enough.” Proving that if you’ve got pale skin and a little money then you can pull the heartstrings of any judge and get away with every awful thing you’ve done. Proving that if you go to the court because you were raped, you shouldn’t even bother because he’s a white athlete.
I got to see a boy who was trying to change his life for the better, get his head bashed into a mirror and sink followed by a swirly. While he was getting a swirly, his abusers put the handle of a mop inside him. He came home and told his mother he had a great day. The next day he pulled up to the school with two handguns and an AR-15 ready to plow down everyone at the dance. Telling kids that shooting up a school is a better option than killing yourself or asking for help.
I watched tons of kids get into trouble with school administrators, but never once was it a “jock.” Showing kids that athletes are the only ones that matter and that they can get away with anything because the teachers only care about their game scores and their new uniforms.
I watched as they made depression out to be some fabrication of a teenage girls mind when in fact it is a lifelong battle that many people struggle with every day. As if it’s just a couple hard weeks at school. It’s a hard getting out of bed in the morning, falling asleep at night, trying to convince everyone you’re happy, loss of appetite, dark cloud, draining everyday life. I watched as they made suicide an option for revenge. I watched as they made suicide an option.
I’m not going to stop fighting against this show. Before you tell people to stop being a baby. Before you tell people they’re overreacting. Before you tell people to grow up, turn away. Maybe you should understand what you’re defending.