You spend a lot of time picking out what outfit you are going to wear to that important event. Staring in the mirror deciding what you think looks best on you. Clothes fly all over your room until you find that perfect outfit. You get so excited to show off your perfectly crafted outfit to everyone. You’re feeling great...until you actually get to the event.
“This would be better if wasn’t so tight!”
Such a simple critique can cause so much harm to our self-confidence. Why does it matter if it is tight? Maybe, just maybe, I’m happy with my body and am content showing it off a little. I understand what an appropriate outfit for certain events is and in no way am I stepping over any boundaries. So why do you now consider a dress I consider flattering to my body, “too tight”.
“This would be better if it wasn’t so see through”
Do adults even understand the concept of bralettes? How will anyone be able to see my beautiful, brand new bralette in a complete opaque shirt? I mean, this is literally what is meant to be worn together.
“This would be better if it was a little longer”
You know I was so proud to show off my nicely shaven legs in my favorite shorts that made my butt look just right. We understand what “too short” is. Girls aren’t aiming to show off things that are supposed to be covered...we know what that looks like. Please stop.
“This would be better if it didn’t make you look like a stripper”
First of all, what? My goal with my outfits is to look cute. Now that one piece of clothing that “makes me look like a stripper”, will probably never be worn again in fear that others will think the same thing. And you say that just because my heels are strappy? Yep, guess that is a complete reason to ruin my day and make sure those brand new shoes never get worn again.
“This would be better if your boobs didn’t look so big”
Hello?! Is that something that I can even control? That is a direct shame to my body.
Please stop making comments on what I am wearing. I am fully aware of what I look like and I was happy until people started picking apart every part of my outfit. Your comment that you think is “helpful” is actually pretty deteriorating to self-confidence. When you come out in one of your favorite outfits feeling great and the first thing someone says about it is how it can be better, it is pretty hurtful.
Please stop.
