I am so tired. By tired I mean, I’m tired of hearing “So you’ve been single for a minute, huh?” or (because I’m 100% Cuban) “Y el novio?” (translates to “and the boyfriend?”).
I forget we live in a generation where if you don’t have a boyfriend as a woman you are completely and utterly either a psycho or there is just something wrong with you. Well, ladies and gentleman, I have some news for you. There is nothing wrong with me. I just rather not settle.
That’s right. I RATHER NOT SETTLE.
I say this in bold and in caps because genuinely I think there’s something more, there’s something better out there then the “men” I meet out at bars who can barely pay for my Redbull vodka. There’s something about this generation where if I don’t have a boyfriend people stare at me like I have 5 heads. Do not get me wrong, I have been single for a few years now and sure I would love to meet someone and have a boyfriend, but the guy who still asks his parents for money to go out is just not the guy for me. Again, before I come off as a b*tch because it seems that I have my standards too high, let me say this – my standards should be high and want to know why? Because life is too short to settle FOR ANYTHING.
Not only in relationships I won’t settle, but also in life. I refuse to deny myself all the GREAT things that this life has to offer and the biggest thing I won’t settle for is a love not big enough to make me crazy. I don’t know about you, but I’m not crazy unless my significant other makes me crazy (in good and bad ways). I want a love so big that I’ll never get tired of writing about it. A love that when people see us, we’ll be their #relationshipgoals (totally kidding, but you get when I’m saying). I want my dreams to be so big that people are afraid to ask me about them because I’m so passionate when I talk about them. There is something about not settling for relationships that won’t keep you satisfied. Relationships, all kinds, for that matter are sacred. They should shape you and help you grow and allow you to become the person YOU know YOU can be. I don’t want people in my life that aren’t adding value to it.
Basically what it comes down to is, I don’t want to just date someone, so people can stop asking why I don’t have a boyfriend. Ask away because I truly rather wait for something real than settle for something less than amazing or less than what I deserve. There really does come a time in your life where you just don’t want to be with people or do things that don’t make you feel 100% you. We can’t live in fear and I sure as hell can’t be fearful of a love worth waiting for.
