As an OUT gay man, people are often curious about the community and my life. This leads to a lot of interesting and quite uncomfortable questions. Now I understand that sometimes it can be unclear as to what's an acceptable question to ask and sometimes people are just plain curious. No matter what the situation is, I am here to bring you up to speed on some things that you might want to stop asking the gay men in your lives. These are questions that I personally dislike being asked, but I'm sure many can relate too.

1. Who is the male and who is the female in the relationship?

This is a question that you should never ask any member of the LGBTQ community. Gender and sexuality are both very open ended and this is a question that can be seen as offensive. No one needs to specify who wears a "dress" in the relationship and who wears a "suit"...hence the whole same-sex relationship part. This is frustrating because television and movies portray gay male relationships in relation to the standard male-female heterosexual gender roles. This is not a reality as gay men are all different and should not be stereotyped into a male or female role.

2. Are you sure you're really gay?

Every time someone finds out that I'm gay they always ask this question. Or they say "How can you know if you're gay, if you've never been with a girl". Regardless, being able to comfortably be yourself can be a challenge within itself, once you get there you really don't want people constantly questioning your sexuality. If the shoe was on the other foot, would you be comfortable with someone questioning who you were attractive too?

3. Who proposes?

This is a question that my boyfriend was asked. For some, this question is simply out of curiosity but for others, it can be seen as another way of putting gay men into society's gender norms. I answer this question simply, whoever feels that it's the right time should propose, it should not be subjected that one person must propose.

4. When did you know you were gay?

Well, when did you know you were straight? Being gay is not something that you wake up one morning and decide to be. There are things that we have to experience that make us very strong individuals. I was born this way and I don't think I need to be questioned on when I knew I was gay. The answer is, I've always been gay, it's a part of who I am but there's more to me than who I am attracted too.

5. Would you consider yourself a masculine or feminine gay man?

Everyone should stop asking this question immediately..once again there is this stereotype that gay men are only one thing. We are all different some are more masculine, some are feminine, some are tall, some are short...regardless we are all human and should not have to choose a box to label ourselves. I do not label myself as anything, I am a gay man who portrays traits of both masculinity and femininity. When people ask me this question, I leave it up to them to figure it out, I don't like fitting myself into one category because I'm a human and I will continue to evolve.

These are my top five questions that I don't like being asked, but everyone is different. Sexuality can be a sensitive subject for some, so it's important to be mindful of the things you ask and how you ask them.