7 Thoughts Your Friend Who DOESN'T Use Social Media Thinks About You

7 Thoughts Your Friend Who DOESN'T Use Social Media Thinks About You

You aren't going to "like" this.


Now, don't take any of this personally, over the years I've gathered these thoughts from myself and other non-social media people. Everyone is different and blanket statements don't speak for everyone. (Duh.)

1. You're a little vain.

This specifically goes out to people who post daily selfies or mundane status updates. There's nothing wrong with wanting to take selfies or let people know that you just made a bombin' pot roast, but when you're doing it all the time it doesn't cast you in the best light. I love my dad (hi, Dad), but he's become obsessed with taking selfies, to the point where he cut his head open on some lobster (don't ask) and decided medical attention is secondary and that posting a Facebook update was his top priority.

2. You're addicted to your phone.

As someone who uses their phone for phone calls and text messaging only, it's a little bizarre to think that other people actively, continuously post updates or scroll through their news feeds. My phone instantly dies if I'm not on power saving mode, so the fact that my mom and sister can spend hours liking things on Facebook or Instagram is mind-boggling. It's also a little problematic that when we go out to dinner I'm the only one not on my phone.

3. Your interest in friendship is a little shallow. 

When you have hundreds upon hundreds of "friends" on social media, it takes some value away from the concept. It's sort of like people who say "I love you" every other sentence, overuse leads to a loss of value. Now, I know it's a little arbitrary, it isn't like you can control what social media called people you add, after all. It's just bizarre to think that you can "know" so many people. What's the point in having so many friends?

4. You're all about that tea.

You're probably a gossip and you have access to intelligence into all the passive-aggressive and aggressive-aggressive drama that's going on, and boy, do we love that about you because we're all a little petty. You probably know beef between a lot of people, and your dedication to such a task is deeply appreciated!

5. You're gregarious. 

You're some sort of an extrovert, digitally, if not in person too. It means you're a lot of fun and can hold a pretty good conversation. You're genial, as weird as it is to think that you've got hundreds of friends online, it isn't surprising. Without a doubt, you've earned those people's "accept friend requests."

6. You've got early access to genuine and fake news. 

News, real and otherwise, always seems to spread through social media in a lightning-fast fashion. As obnoxious as fake news can be, the outlandish things some people spread are highly meme-able, and can summon genuine laughs from people who're sharp enough to know that the information is fake.

7. You know the best places to visit.

We fully believe that you know the best restaurants to eat at, the best recreational places to visit, and the details to any parties that are going on. You may not, but we view you as an encyclopedia of such things.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Taking A Social Media Hiatus

I spent the work week avoiding all social media and this is what I learned about myself and those around me.


Nowadays, social media is EVERYWHERE. It is almost inescapable. I made the personal decision to shut personal social media down for the work week. It was my decision and I could not be happier with the outcome. The following are some things I learned while taking my break.

1. People freak out

I made the choice to announce that I would not be available through social media. The announcement was to make sure that if someone needed to reach me, they knew to contact my cell or email. My thought process was that with the announcement, there would not need to be a freakout.

However, I was wrong. I received some major backlash. Luckily, by the time this was all sent to me I had already logged out and walked away. It was very surprising to me that my absence would anger people.

Not only was there anger, a lot of people thought something was wrong with me. I appreciate the concern, but the fact that the only reason people reached out to me because I was not going to be online was somewhat of a wake-up call to who is really there for me.

2. It is somewhat difficult.

Originally, the plan was to keep my notifications on for emergency purposes because there a lot of people who contact me via Instagram and Twitter. I wanted to keep it readily available just in case something went terribly wrong. This was scrapped in a matter of 24 hours.

It became too difficult to see each meaningless notification pop up on my screen and just ignore it. All notifications were turned off. The only way to get my attention was to text, call, or email.

My friends would ask me if I saw something that popped up their feed and I would have to remind them that I was currently cut off from that aspect of the world. I was fine with it the majority of the time, but I definitely suffered from some pretty bad FOMO.

3. My stress level did not drop right away.

It was an experience! I thought that without the world having a constant access to me, I would immediately feel a weight lifted off my shoulders.

False. My stress stayed because I was concerned that something was happening and I was unable to participate in it. However, this did fade and I ended up enjoying not having to scroll through multiple feeds and stay in continuous contact with people.

4. There are so many more things to do without your phone.

Trust me, I know that the world is much more entertaining than what I am shown in media. Actually experiencing that proved to be nothing short of amazing. I was able to get more work done and enjoy life without having to seem perfect for the camera. I am one of those people who posts what I want, BUT it goes through many speculations of my own to be able to be viewed by the public.

I also tend to post something on at least one social site daily. I had so much free time when I didn't have to worry about posting. I read a book. A real one. For fun. The one downside was not documenting all the fun moments on I had off camera, but just living in the moment proved worth it.

5. Sleep is a gift worth fighting for.

Sleep comes so easily when you're not on your phone right before bed. AND IT IS SO WORTH IT. In college, where sleep can be a thing of legends, getting those extras minutes or hours can mean the world to your health.

All week, I was better rested and felt so much healthier. It was truly amazing. With that knowledge, I turn my phone off 20 minutes before going to bed every night now. Gotta get those Zs.

6. Social media cannot dictate my mood.

In all honesty, we are very much influenced by what we see in the media. It's natural and that's how the world works nowadays. However, with a week off I realized that even if I take a negative aspect out of my life I still have to make conscious decisions towards my own happiness.

I wanted to get away from the drama and the trash that is online for a while because I thought to distance myself would help me be happier. Don't get me wrong, it did have benefits. Those benefits are not the only factor in happiness. I learned that no matter what is going on, I have to be able to put in my perspective and make the best decisions on my terms for my happiness.

Overall, I highly recommend taking a social media break for a few days, weeks, months...whatever works best for you. It gives you a chance to remember what it's like to not be tied to your phone and really embrace the world for what it is.

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