In our society, the notion of doing things by yourself is sometimes considered strange. Even if the activity is something we are passionate about, we can be hindered to attend by the fact that we would be going alone. It's in our instincts to want to stay with a group, but how many times have you passed up an opportunity because your friend, family member or significant other weren't able to go? This article attempts to explain why it's important to become comfortable with being alone and offer some simple steps to achieve that.
In today's world, we reserve time for everyone else but ourselves. Essentially, we need to learn how to date ourselves. The phrase "dating yourself" might be weird, but that mentality has merit. It all boils down to self-love. Becoming comfortable with who you are as a person is unbelievably freeing, and I hope that everyone tries some of the steps below.
1. Running errands.
This first step is probably familiar to everyone: doing anything that is quick and out of necessity. When it is something you really need to do, like grocery shop or pick up your prescription, you are more inclined to jump in your car and go rather than wait for someone else to tag along. Nevertheless, it is the first step, and becoming comfortable with doing simple tasks can lead to more.
2. Shopping or working in a café.
The next step is going out with the intention of spending a certain amount of time out. It’s still a simple activity, like shopping for clothes or going to Panera to work. In truth, you are distracted during the activity, but you’ve set out to spend a couple hours by yourself. We may be used to having another opinion while we’re shopping, so that may be an adjustment for some. Ultimately, you’ll be the one wearing it, so your opinion matters the most. Shopping by yourself can allow you to discover your true style and how to express your personality.
3. Going to a restaurant / concert / movie / sports game.
This final step is one that I am challenging myself to reach. I’ve just bought a ticket to see my favorite band play, despite the fact that none of my friends are interested in going. This last step is one that many people never reach. These activities are seen as group activities and abnormal to do alone. I’ve let many opportunities similar to this pass me by, and I’m tired of regretting it.
Yes, it may be difficult to do this, but the point is to not hold yourself back. Dating yourself is all about being uncomfortable. It’s pushing yourself further and further. I continue to challenge myself and push myself out of my comfort zone. It is by no means easy, but it is unbelievably rewarding. How often have you done any of these by yourself?
