Why It's Okay To Stay Close With Your Friends From High School While In College

Why It's Okay To Stay Close With Your Friends From High School While In College

"Remember that the most valuable antiques are dear old friends" -H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

We live under the impression that once we go off to college, that's it. The life we knew before graduation will cease to exist, leaving behind just a shadow of what had been. We're told that odds are our best friends - the ones we stayed up until 3 o'clock in the morning talking with, the ones who posed with us for prom pictures, the ones who taught us what real friendship was - will not be our best friends after we start college. By not fault of our own, people simply grow apart. They find new friends, join clubs and organizations; reinvent themselves and become individuals whom their friends from high school do not recognize.

The real travesty is when we allow this to happen; when we allow the naysayers to be right. With all the technology our generation has access to, there is nothing holding us back from maintaining those relationships that defined who we were as adolescents and who we would become as adults in college. We have opportunities to keep in touch through Facebook, texting, Skype, that our parents did not as some of them embarked on the same journey we take now. Unless you just truly want to escape the high school world, there is no excuse for not keeping in touch.

But let us dissolve this horrible idea that we cannot stay close with our friends in high school for fear of not being able to move on, make new friends and mature. That being 45 minutes to 6 hours away, means that the friendship will fade away because of distance.

It is okay to have those old friends and new friends too. There is no rule about leaving those who mean so much behind when you start a new life while away from them. They acted as your family outside of your own, as you guided one another through the awkward and most defining period of your lives. College is yet another defining experience in your life. You actually begin to figure out the person you are and only thought you knew in high school. It is the ‘old friends’ who shaped us as individuals so that we could make new friends in college. Is it not a comforting feeling knowing you have people waiting for you, counting on you, to still be waiting for them too? There is a kind of beauty in knowing that even as we were learning how to be good people and good friends throughout high school, that we touched someone’s – or even multiple someone’s – life enough for them to want to stay in it; even if it means not seeing one another for months a time. There's beauty in knowing friendships can last a lifetime, so long as you choose to preserve them.

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What It's Really Like To Be An Only Child

"We are so amazing our parents only needed one."

Spoiled. Mature. Lonely. Lucky. Stubborn. Entitled. Selfish. Independent. Immature.

They may all seem like contradictory statements, and in some ways, they most definitely are. And yet, they are all words that people have used at some point to describe me, simply because I am an only child.

It doesn't matter my family life, my personality, or my accomplishments. For some odd reason, we all seem to have some pre-conceived notion about those only-children. When someone finds out I am an only child, the most common reaction is getting is "Oh, that makes so much sense." Apparently, being an only child creates a specific persona. But in reality, if you haven't lived it, you will just never know. While some of the ideas may be very true, we only-children didn't choose this life. So stop judging us before you've gotten to know us.

There's not a whole lot I can really say to describe to someone what it's like to be an only child. Yes, it's true that I get all of the attention. After all, who else would it go to? But, that doesn't mean that I always like being the center of attention. I'm a natural born performer, so I certainly like my fair share of center-stage. But I too like my alone time, hidden silently in the corner.

I grew up spending a lot of time alone, so I most definitely have the ability to be independent. I do better with older people than people my own age, simply because that's who I grew up around. I spent a significant amount of time with my parents and family. Of course, I had friends my own age, but it still gives me a sense of security to have someone older there to protect me.

Before you ask, no, I don't always get my way. My parents were still in charge, I still had to share with friends. Of course, I was always the one to pick what game we played or movie we watched, but I didn't own the entire Barbie collection. Being an only child doesn't make me entitled, it just makes me who I am. I was always the youngest, so of course, I was treated as such.

Yet, I like to think that I am anything but selfish. I love volunteering and I love helping others. It's just who I am, it's in my blood. Sure I grew up as an only child, but my family really embodied the spirit of giving.

When I was little I used to whine, saying "I'm a lonely child." But in reality, I actually couldn't imagine growing up with siblings. Now, I have over 200 sorority sisters and I couldn't be blessed with anything better, I get the best of both worlds. I have girls who truly act like my siblings. We fight, we love, and I know we truly live for each other.

So yes, I may be spoiled. I am mature, and yet in some ways, still very immature. My role models have changed my life, and I now live the best of both worlds. I am independent, I am lucky. But not because I am an only child, simply because that's who I am.

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10 Signs You Have High 'Fun Uncle' Potential

Honestly, not everyone is cut out to be a father.

I was introduced to the saying you have "Fun Uncle" potential recently. Apparently, it's the nice way of saying I probably would be the best father. Yet, here I am totally embracing my "Fun Uncle" potential. Here is a list of qualities which I think will help you figure out if you too are on the right track of being a fun uncle.

1. Habit of Tossing Kids for Fun

Honestly, I don't know what's wrong with tossing kids in the air they really love it.

2. Have Mini Me Thoughts

I feel as though fathers probably think more of their children than just reincarnates of themselves.

3. Expect a Limited Amount of Time

If you find yourself looking forward to the end of your time with a kid, probably shouldn't have one anytime soon

4. Never Really Changed a Diaper

I just kinda find the closest person with this particular skill set.

5. Talk to Kids Like an Adult

The baby talk thing is degrading for me and I believe for the baby also

6. Carry a Baby More Like a football

Apparently, there is a proper way to hold a child. I 100% sure it isn't the way I hold them.

7. Television Babysitting

Honestly, best life hack ever is to put Nick Jr on and not have to do anything else.

8. Unable to Say No

I feel as though if a child has the audacity to ask to have ice cream for dinner who am I to say no?

9. Television Learning

This is different from television babysitting, because instead of Nick Jr they would be watching PBS kids.

10. Buyer's Remorse

There is always that moment when you question why you even wanted your own child in the first place.

There you have it. If you guilty of any of these 10 childcare "sins" you probably lean more towards fun uncle than father. Maybe it is the lack of maturity or... nope, it is definitely the lack of maturity.

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