I think a great mistake people make is being pessimistic when it comes to love. We constantly think that we are "unlovable" or that the fairy tale Cinderella story is just not in the cards for us. I was absolutely one of these people. I put a negative connotation on the word love. I did not think that I was ever going to find someone who truly loved me just for being me. Little did I know God had a plan for me.
The moment I saw him, I literally thought in my brain, "He is gorgeous. Let's just have a little fun, because this is going to go nowhere." It is so amazing that now, he is the love of my life. At the time we met, it was the beginning of my freshman year of college and my heart was so beaten down from an on-again-off-again high school relationship. I was also was suffering from a severe case of "daddy issues."
Not to say that I wasn't confident, but I began seeing myself in a negative image. I began to let the words that the stupid high school ex-boyfriend said to me be the definition of what I was. I also let my mother and father's relationship be the crystal ball of what my future relationship would hold. So it is safe to say that my feelings on love at the time were not too optimistic.
I am so happy that God is a smarter being than I am. I am so grateful that He has an eternal plan for each and every one of us. I will never be able to thank Him enough for placing my man along my path. My man taught me what it was to be my confident self again. Not to say that a person should be the reason for a confidence boost, but he reminds me of all the beauties inside me. It truly is such a blessing to be your honest-to-God self around a person. It is even more of a blessing when that person likes it.
My older sister once told me that there is no point to a relationship if you do not have fun and it just becomes work. That is something I will never understand about certain relationships. I do not understand why a person would want to be with someone who constantly is beating them down instead of building them up. With all my heart, I have fun every day. Whether we smack each others butts during a sweaty run, or make-out in the middle of the dance floor, or jam to Disney songs, he is my best friend. I think that finding your best friend is the most important element in a relationship. He knows every shade of myself, and still finds the light in me somehow. We support each other and never take advantage of each other's weaknesses. I owe him the world because he makes me feel like the only girl in it.
Most importantly, my man has taught me how to have faith. He makes me strive to do better and he takes away all of my pessimism, which is by no means an easy task. He makes me realize the strength in myself, and the strength in us. I am no longer the girl who constantly thinks negatively and who sees the bad in herself, and I have him to thank for that.
To all my girls out there stressing over Prince Charming making his way down the block, he will be here soon. I want to give you hope that there are amazing men out there. It is just having faith in God's timing. His timing is absolutely perfect and perfectly planned. Please remember that. God has a person waiting for you that was made bone to your bone, flesh to your flesh. Isn't that such a cool thing to think!? So be patient, girlfriend. You never know, on your next trip to the laundry room, you just might meet your future husband.
