Sometimes in life, things occur and you’re given no option but to make a choice. This has been happening a lot for me lately, and I can’t help but question if I’m making the right decision or not. For example, choosing a major in college is extremely difficult, because sometimes you’re unsure and have your moments of doubt if what you chose is really what you want to pursue. I’ve recently gotten an opportunity to move up in the business world and I accepted it. Why should I feel guilty for moving on and bettering myself if the opportunity was more beneficial to me?
I’m not sorry. I’m not apologizing. I’m not going to sit here and put my dreams, my goals, and my better opportunities on the back burner just to please everyone else and keep everyone else happy. What will that do for me? Absolutely nothing. I’ve learned that to truly be a step closer to happiness, you need to stop living for others and living up to their expectations they put on you. The only person you need to impress and live for is you.
This is for anyone who feels that they need to live for others and not themselves: let that mindset go and live for you. If you like that pair of red heels with spikes on them that you’re best friend finds obnoxious, good for her. You still buy those heels and rock them the next time you go out to a club. You get offered a new job and your current employer gets upset and begins to act childish, let them go and let them be mad. You didn’t promise you’d be there forever, now did you? You shouldn’t feel guilty that you did something for you even though we all feel that that’s the worst thing that someone could do in this world.
This is for anyone who feels that they are unable to use the word “no.” Never do something just because someone calls you names or tries to pressure you into doing so. You stand your ground and stick to your morals and beliefs, and do what’s right for you, not what’s right for them. If your friends all want you to hit that blunt, but that’s just not your thing, tell them that straight up. If they’re truly your friend, they won’t make fun of you. They’ll understand and respect your choice. They’ll show their respect for you as an individual and as your friend.
This is, most importantly, for anyone who struggles with accepting the fact that it’s okay for you to grow up and move on. Growing up can mean moving on to better things in life that come along and leaving some amazing people who mean the world to you behind. However, this also means meeting new, equally amazing people in the process that won’t make you regret that decision. It’s okay to grow up and it’s okay to change something that you outgrow. Don’t get down on yourself about that. You’re allowed to spread your wings and fly, little butterfly.
