Yes, I Am "Spoiled," But I Still Work Harder Than Most

Yes, I Am "Spoiled," But I Still Work Harder Than Most

You know what they say, Hard work always pays off!
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Yes, I am your typical spoiled child.

I have Jack Rogers in almost every color, accessories to match every outfit in my closet and quite the assortment of Lilly Pulitzer. First off, let me begin with this statement: Yes, I am blessed in more ways than some, and I am forever grateful for the opportunities that my family has given to me – HOWEVER, just because my family is willing to go the extra mile to ensure that my needs are met, they have also instilled in me a great work ethic, for which I am forever grateful.

Growing up for seven and a half years as an only child, one can only imagine the playroom in my house. Barbie Dolls, the latest American Girl Collection, and a small stash of “teacher” supplies filled my playroom at the young age of five years old. I loved everything, girly, and was quite spoiled – as you can imagine.

I thoroughly remember as a young child, having dinner with my grandparents every Friday night. They would pick me up after school, and I was able to play at their house until dinner time. As dinner time arrived, I was always able to choose my restaurant of choice, which happened to be Wendy’s. Following my favorite meal of all time, my grandparents and I would take me to Walmart and I was allowed to get a new toy, of some kind. It didn’t have to be extravagant, nor did it require a large price tag.

This Friday night tradition did not last forever. As I grew older, my Friday night trips and Walmart surprises became more meaningful – as if, I had received good grades at school. I began to be rewarded for my good actions. This idea carried on throughout the remainder of my elementary and middle school years until I was old enough to get a job.

My first real job, just so happened to be a Dance Instructor. For those of you who know me well, you know that this was a dream come true. I loved every aspect of my job and was ecstatic to know that I had worked hard and earned the money I was given when my paycheck arrived. This feeling of accomplishment was something that I loved. For once, my family didn’t give me the money to spend on a new pair of sandals or to go to the movies with my friends.

As the years have gone by, I have worked in various workplaces, as well as with some families that I hold near and dear to my heart. Not only has having a job made me appreciate the value of money, but it has also given me a sense of self-pride. By having a job, I have the ability to provide for myself, my wants and needs.

At the age of 19 years old, I work twenty hours per week, as well as attend college full-time. Along with these two main responsibilities – I am involved with three on-campus organizations. Additionally, on the weekends, I occasionally pick up babysitting opportunities as they arise. It is not always easy to complete my school work to the best of my ability, but I know that one day, I will be able to look back on my college years and be proud of the student I was.

Yes, I am spoiled – I can admit it. Yes, I can call my family members at the drop of a hat, if I ever need anything. But, in return, they also know that I work diligently throughout the week to ensure that my wants and needs are met.

No matter how much I complain about having to work throughout my college years, I am thankful that my parents and family members instilled in me, a work ethic – that is often unmatched. Having a job in college has given me, even more independence, than I had initially been looking toward, and for that, I am eternally grateful.

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So, You Want To Be A Nurse?

You're going to find that nursing isn't really about the medicine or the assessments. Being a nurse is so much more than anything that you can learn in school. Textbooks can't teach you compassion and no amount of lecture time will teach you what it truly means to be a nurse.

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To the college freshman who just decided on nursing,

I know why you want to be a nurse.

Nurses are important. Nursing seems fun and exciting, and you don't think you'll ever be bored. The media glorifies navy blue scrubs and stethoscopes draped around your neck, and you can't go anywhere without hearing about the guaranteed job placement. You passed AP biology and can name every single bone in the human body. Blood, urine, feces, salvia -- you can handle all of it with a straight face. So, you think that's what being a nurse is all about, right? Wrong.

You can search but you won't find the true meaning of becoming a nurse until you are in the depths of nursing school and the only thing getting you through is knowing that in a few months, you'll be able to sign the letters "BSN" after your name...

You can know every nursing intervention, but you won't find the true meaning of nursing until you sit beside an elderly patient and know that nothing in this world can save her, and all there's left for you to do is hold her hand and keep her comfortable until she dies.

You'll hear that one of our biggest jobs is being an advocate for our patients, but you won't understand until one day, in the middle of your routine physical assessment, you find the hidden, multi-colored bruises on the 3-year-old that won't even look you in the eyes. Your heart will drop to your feet and you'll swear that you will not sleep until you know that he is safe.

You'll learn that we love people when they're vulnerable, but you won't learn that until you have to give a bed bath to the middle-aged man who just had a stroke and can't bathe himself. You'll try to hide how awkward you feel because you're young enough to be his child, but as you try to make him feel as comfortable as possible, you'll learn more about dignity at that moment than some people learn in an entire lifetime.

Every class will teach you about empathy, but you won't truly feel empathy until you have to care for your first prisoner in the hospital. The guards surrounding his room will scare the life out of you, and you'll spend your day knowing that he could've raped, murdered, or hurt people. But, you'll walk into that room, put your fears aside, and remind yourself that he is a human being still, and it's your job to care, regardless of what he did.

Each nurse you meet will beam with pride when they tell you that we've won "Most Trusted Profession" for seventeen years in a row, but you won't feel that trustworthy. In fact, you're going to feel like you know nothing sometimes. But when you have to hold the sobbing, single mother who just received a positive breast cancer diagnosis, you'll feel it. Amid her sobs of wondering what she will do with her kids and how she's ever going to pay for treatment, she will look at you like you have all of the answers that she needs, and you'll learn why we've won that award so many times.

You'll read on Facebook about the nurses who forget to eat and pee during their 12-hour shifts and swear that you won't forget about those things. But one day you'll leave the hospital after an entire shift of trying to get your dying patient to eat anything and you'll realize that you haven't had food since 6:30 A.M. and you, too, will be one of those nurses who put everything else above themselves.

Too often we think of nursing as the medicine and the procedures and the IV pumps. We think of the shots and the bedpans and the baths. We think all the lab values and the blood levels that we have to memorize. We think it's all about the organs and the diseases. We think of the hospitals and the weekends and the holidays that we have to miss.

But, you're going to find that nursing isn't really about the medicine or the assessments. Being a nurse is so much more than anything that you can learn in school. Textbooks can't teach you compassion, and no amount of lecture time will teach you what it truly means to be a nurse.

So, you think you want to be a nurse?

Go for it. Study. Cry. Learn everything. Stay up late. Miss out on things. Give it absolutely everything that you have.

Because I promise you that the decision to dedicate your life to saving others is worth every sleepless night, failed test, or bad day that you're going to encounter during these next four years. Just keep holding on.

Sincerely,

The nursing student with just one year left.

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The 7 Best Pieces Of Advice I Have Been Given About Life

Some of the best advice I have been given over the years...

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There isn't a central theme among these pieces of advice or sayings. They are all just random things I have been told over the course of my life–especially in the last week. I find these 7 to be particularly helpful in various situations, and try to keep them in mind when I am in over my head.

1. "Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself because there is nobody who is going to help you more than you."

You are the #1 person who can help your own case. No one knows you as you do, therefore no one will be able to help you more than you can help yourself. A lot of things are mental, so once you can convince yourself that you deserve something (whatever it may be) you can convince anyone. Another saying goes along with this, on the flip side: "No one can diminish you but yourself." You are in control of your own self-perception, and you are very much capable of being your own worst enemy.

2. "Stand behind your reputation because you can never get it back."

My mom sent this to me the other day. Be who you are, and do it proudly. Especially with meeting people for the first time, you can never have a second chance at a first impression. That being said, if people view you in a bad light, figure out why that is and fix it. You may not be able to change someones initial thoughts of you, but you can change the way they view you after that.

3. "The best things in life happen unexpectedly."

"Life is what happens when you're busy making plans," also goes along with this. Trying to plan out every little detail of your life is only going to lead to disappointment. Sometimes you find the best things/what you're looking for when you're not actually looking. Just go through the motions and things will work out the way they are supposed to.

4. "Be proud of your accomplishments, no matter how small."

It's important to celebrate the little things. Did you go to class today? Good for you. Did you decide to drink water instead of a soda? That's awesome. How are you going to work up to doing bigger and better things if you don't have anywhere to start?

5. "Whatever you're stressing about now probably won't matter in five years."

As someone who is often eaten away by their own worry and anxiety, this is a mantra that I try to constantly remind myself. While it may seem like a big deal now, you need to keep in mind the bigger picture. Will it matter in 5 hours? 5 days? 5 months? And so on. If the answer is no to ANY of these questions, it's probably not worth beating yourself up over.

6. "Stop being the 'go to' person for someone you can't go to."

Someone tweeted that their pastor said this to them and the tweet went viral. A friend of mine sent it to me, and it really made me think. Something I have struggled with over the years is making excuses for people who don't show up for me when I am constantly there for them. This is a helpful reminder that if they aren't contributing to you and your life, you shouldn't have to bend over backward to help them out and be in their lives.

7. "Two wrongs don't make a right."

While this is often a saying that parents use on their young children, it is applicable to pretty much any stage of life. My parents, especially my dad, have constantly said this, whether it was in reference to fighting with my siblings or dealing with people at school. Even as a 20-year-old, I find myself saying this when I hear about arguments and problems people are having. Everyone wants to get even, to best those who hurt them. While it's important to stick up for yourself, it is also important to be the bigger person and not stoop to their level (and whatever else your parents told you in these situations).

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