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I Love Having Space To Myself, But That Doesn't Mean I Will Throw My Relationships Away

Having space is vital for my self-growth.

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Space is a wonderful thing. Expecting space from loved ones, friends, family... the thought of it is wonderful. Being able to do things one wants and expects are two different things. See, wanting space all the time is an expectation. But it doesn't work.

Asking for space repeatedly from a loved one can be a chore, especially when the other person doesn't see why you would want space in the first place. This can relate in a relationship in which one person is more introverted than the other. I, for one, am more introverted.

I can seem extroverted. But I do enjoy my time alone. I enjoy indulging in art, photography, sketching, coloring, gaming, reading, or just singing with friends or playing board or card games. Yes, I know, it's 2018, and people would most likely go out clubbing or to raves, but I for one want peace. Activities, like clubbing or going to parties, bring more headaches than fun. Many may take it personally, but I like talking or reading to myself. In other words, it's my time to shine. It's my time to treat myself.

Going out on walks and treating myself to brunch are some needed factors for alone time. It's a type of relaxation in which I swallow in the world around me. Walking gives me a boost in which I fully envelop myself into the scents, sounds, the view of the landscape. Because photography means so much to me, I usually capture pictures from different angles and get my idea of peace from there.

Looking back at those taken pictures allow me to reflect on my day and be able to look at them again in the future when I need time to myself. In fact, brunch is a whole other world. Being able to eat by myself and letting myself be swallowed by the food puts a different meaning to the food itself. Instead of talking to friends or being with family, eating food as a sole person lets me fully capture myself in the simple act of eating. The food tastes better. My comfort increases, and as a whole, I feel more alive.

I honestly do feel more alive. My boyfriend can't understand it sometimes. My friends think I am trying to not see them. But no, it's none of that. I just like venting my pent-up anger to no one in particular without burdening my problems to others. I like talking to no one because I know that nobody can judge.

But that does not mean I dislike talking to my friends or spending time with my boyfriend. I love them with all my heart, and I appreciate them so much. It just means that sometimes I need that space. That space to relax, that space to destress, that space to do the things that feel comfortable to me, because I hate leaving them hanging.

Life is so short, and spending time with people all the time isn't gonna make you realize your worth. Sometimes, people can let you down. They can hurt you, make you feel sad, make you feel angry. Their words can eat you up inside, but if you have a strong foundation with the hobbies and inanimate things that make you so, SO happy, then don't drop them. Don't put them far below your friends or your relationships. In fact, put them side by side. Let them know that you haven't forgotten about them because they in no way have forgotten about you.

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