The fabulous ladies of "Sex and the City" may have been on to something when they said that maybe our soul mates are our best friends, and boys are just people to have fun with.
I mean think about it, we spend our whole lives trying to understand the opposite sex. Trying to find “The one”. We are taught from an early age that girls are dainty and fragile. While men are supposed to be strong and powerful and take care of everything for us. Excuse me, but how on earth is this supposed to be considered a soul mate?
I was always told that when looking for someone you want to have a relationship with, we are supposed to look for someone that is “equally yolked” if you will. We are supposed to be with someone that is similar to our own personality, but also our differences should compliment each other as well.
No pressure though, right?
Meanwhile, we (usually) spend all of our free time with our core group of friends. Friends who we confide in. Friends who we trust to have our back covered when we can’t cover it ourselves. We are friends with people who we get along with, and people who test our brainpower and push us to the next level. Friends who will move mountains for us if we just say the word.
Now, true friends are hard to come by. Almost harder than trying to find someone you see yourself being in a relationship with. Why though? Maybe because friends get to see your true colors more often than any other person does.
Friends get put through the ringer. I don’t care who you are or what you do, if you have a friend or two then you have put them through the ringer at one point or another. Good, true friends deserve more credit than what they are given. Finding even one person to stick by your side (literally) through thick and thin, is one of the rarest things to find. Mainly because a lot of people don't really know what they are getting themselves into until it is too late in the game.
A word of advice for you, just stop stressing!
The day will come, it always does. Someone will walk into your life, whether it be as a friend soulmate or a relationship soulmate. Either way, consider yourself lucky if and when you are able to spot this beautiful person because they will be one of the calmest energies in your life from that point on. That's what they are there for!
