"So are y'all like a thing?", "Are y'all talking?", "Is that guy your boyfriend?", "Come on now there has to be something going on you're not telling us."
These are questions that every girl gets asked if she has a best friend that's a boy. Having a guy best friend can be a tricky situation for college, high school or just any age lady. Some people will think you're hooking up (I know crazy right), some people will think he's not into girls, and some people will just not know what to think of this mixed gender friendship that they just cant wrap their minds around. Here are some things I've come to realize that come with having a guy bestie.
1. You have a built in safe date for EVERYTHING!
If you're anything like me, procrastinate, and let dates slip your mind, your guy best friend is the perfect date for a last minute event. If you're talking to a boy, but not to that "level" of letting people know what's going on in your love life, call your best friend. If you simply just want to have a good time with a friend, call him. Me and my guy best friend have a understanding; I'll go to your functions if you can go to mine. They honestly make the best formal/date party/ awkward family gatherings a lot better!
2. People are going to think you're a couple (lol, jk)
Having a guy best friend definitely has it's pros and cons. Between the two of you, you know where your friendship stands, but everyone else thinks there is something else going on. People are going to say that you're hooking up, some say you're both in love but just haven't admitted it to each other. People just don't understand what they aren't a part of sometimes. and that's OK. I know if me and my best friend were together someone would die and it wouldn't be me.
3. There is, however, a time where you will mentally put them as a back.
Even if you don't see your guy best friend as a potential love interest, there will be a time where in your head under certain circumstances you'd be OK with being with them. You know total logical situations. but then reality sits in and you silently will pray, "Dear Lord, I hope that never happens because I just don't think I can even".
4. Sometimes they know you better than you know you.
Guys see things WAY differently than girls do. Sometimes they can tell something is wrong with you before your girlfriends know something is wrong. Either it be a tone in your voice, not using your usual emoji, or just something just being off, they can tell something is up. They know how to cheer you up. From a goofy Snapchat to "Dude, get over it and come watch The Office and have a beer". They know that life can suck and sometimes you just need your best friend.
5. It will be one of your more difficult friendships.
It's true boys and girls are just different. We are wired differently. This seems to be where a lot of miscommunication, arguments, and frustration come with friends of the opposite sex, but it's OK. They see life differently than you do and sometimes you NEED IT! So keep on with the jokes they’ll never understand; just throw some side eyes when they start talking about how hot one of your friends is.
All in all, a best friend is a best friend for a reason. So here’s to the girls with boy besties. Here’s to the girls that get your office, Batman, or sports humor. You’ll be the girl with inside scoop with all things boy. Not every guy/girl relationship turns into something else so here are the Monica and Joey, Lucas and Haley Scott, Meredith and Karevs of the world.
