For some reason in today's society, we are conditioned to think "when you care about someone, everything is always going to work out." We think that love is some kind of magical and powerful thing that is capable of changing circumstances. Well, it's not. Don't get me wrong, relationships are a wonderful thing, but with some people, sometimes it just isn't enough.
I was in love once. He was a great guy. He was kind, intelligent, funny, and good to me. He wanted to spend his life with me, and in all honesty, he treated me better than I ever deserved. He still does. We tried very hard to make our relationship work, but it was nearly impossible. I loved him very much, but in the end it just wasn't enough.
It wasn't his love that wasn't enough for me--his love was enough to make me incredibly happy--it was the circumstances. At that point in time, it wasn't enough to make me sacrifice my future plans or my happiness. It wasn't enough for me to change myself to fit what I thought I needed to be for him. He loved me, but he knew that wasn't enough to hold me back.
There are going to be women out there who think that love can fix anything. They enter toxic relationships and wait out the pain, heartache, and abuse just for the occasional good moment. She thinks just because he loves her, it gives him an excuse to break her heart and manipulate her. Let me tell you something, that isn't enough.
I see women who are marrying the first guy who says he loves her because she's afraid that no one else ever will. I see women who stay with someone they have lost their passion for because they see all of their friends getting married or in serious relationships and they feel the pressure to fit in. Ladies, that isn't enough.
In my life, I have loved people. I have had people love me, but that doesn't mean it all worked out. I have lost people I cared about and I have let people I loved go. Why? Because circumstances proved the emotion wasn't enough.
Sometimes in life, you have to let people go. There isn't always a reason, so save yourself some heartache and stop searching for one. People leave, seasons come, seasons go, and there are choices.
In life, we have to make hard choices. Some choices are hard because they are selfish. Some choices are hard because they are unselfish. That is the amazing thing about relationships. Letting go or choosing not to settle isn't something to be ashamed of or sad about. It's life, and in life we need to realize that sometimes it just isn't enough.
