Whether it's with a friend, family member, boyfriend or girlfriend, letting go can be one of the scariest and most difficult actions you could think to do. More often than not, when you think of letting go, you think you are saying goodbye. In some situations that can be the case, but it doesn't always have to be that final. It's called creating space.
When we think of letting go, we tend to associate it with weakness and giving up. Letting go of something you love is not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of strength. We do this not to bail out of a tough situation, but to show the universe our worth. We show the people around us that we are worth more than how we are being treated.
You can spend days, weeks, or even months, dwelling on a situation, analyzing every detail of what went wrong, how you are going to fix it, and what will happen if you lose it. Or you could take a step away.
A relationship is like a puzzle. Sometimes the timing is perfect, and all the pieces you both are picking up fit just as they are suppose to. Other times you cannot seem to find the right pieces; you are forcing pieces together that are not supposed to match, which frustrates you. Stop trying to fit the broken puzzle together, and step away from the table. The puzzle is not going anywhere, and the pieces will eventually fit together. You just need to take a break, and let the frustration and irritation dissolve before you start up again.
Just like the puzzle, sometimes time away from each other is for the best. In other peoples eyes it might seem like you are giving up, but taking a step away and creating space can make both parties really think about what means most to them and what they need to fix inside themselves before trying to fix the other person.
The only person you can control is yourself, and the only life you can dictate is your own. You might have the best intentions at heart, but trying to change someone will only hurt you and the other person more. If they really need to alter a major aspect in their life, they have to do it themselves and on their own terms. No matter how hard you try, they have to be aware of what is wrong and be willing to fix it. If they aren't, you're fighting a never-ending battle.
"The best things in life definitely don't come easy," and letting go might be one of the hardest things you have to overcome. Like all things, if God plans for someone or something to be in your life, eventually they will end up there. It's okay to be selfish every once in while if it means you are doing what is best for you and the other people involved. Just remember, you can make a decision to better you both, or you can continue to make excuses and be unhappy.
"Be strong enough to let go, and patient enough to wait for what you deserve." -Anonymous
