Ever since I started to "adult" and make some important decisions, I've always been torn on so many decisions. How do you know that the correct decision is really the right one?
I think that is the question that tends to linger in my head and always has me doing the limbo. How can I be sure? How can I be certain that I will not regret my decision in the future? I assume that this is what adulating is - being uncertain and just taking a chance and following your gut. When does following your heart come into play? What if you feel like your heart is into one thing but your head is telling you something completely different? How do I battle this constant tug-and-pull game?
Lately, I've been thinking about what is best for me and what I need to do to ensure that I will put myself in the best situations possible. Somehow, I try and play out every scenario, but once I think I've figured it out, something else pops up. The same outcome always takes me to the same place. You literally do a full circle and still wind up with the same question: Which decision is better for me?
I've tried the famous "pros and cons" list, and obviously most of the time we have more cons than pros, but still, it seems like the decision never gets much easier. So, we once again come to the question of how to make the right choice. We can look at it from two angles. The first would be: "If I knew the right decision, I would know right away, hence, I wouldn't be questioning." The second viewpoint is: "My mind is telling me one thing, but my heart is telling me another."
What I soon figured out is that sometimes, things that are out of our control may come into play. And sometimes the best choice is to just go for it. If there is something telling you that you should do it, then maybe take the chance and go for it. Time is something that keeps going; it's something that cannot be stopped. Time is limited for humans and we need to dive in and take all the fruits it gives us. Most people say that we need to focus on life, getting a job, and getting ahead in our careers. Then the other half believes that life experiences are what keep us alive; happiness is what keeps us alive. Sometimes we must live a little and not get stuck in the continuous circle that life can keep us in.
We cannot fear the "what ifs" in life. They will keep us in a loop or in this bubble of fear. We cannot get into our old age and say, "What if I had done this differently?" or "I really wish I would have done that." Regret is the one thing that we cannot have, and we cannot let fear keep us from doing what we want to do.
