Honestly, I have always been a little intimidated by certain girls. You know the ones, the really gorgeous ones, or the really smart ones, or the really athletic ones, or the ones with really great leadership skills. Out of all the deadly sins, envy is the one I struggle the most with.

Then there are the mean girls...you know them too. The ones who know they're smart, pretty, athletic, or the leaders and use it to their advantage. The ones who make off handed comments about your outfit or hair. The ones who give you the side eye as you walk by them, even though you have never talked to them in your life. The ones who can make you feel small with one glance.

I thought those would go away after high school, but they thrive in college too. They find their groups, and they toss their hair over their shoulders as they stare you down. I've accepted the fact that they will probably always be around, in my career, in my future children's schools, and in the nursing home.

After spending a lot of my life being a little afraid of these kind of girls, I've finally realized feeling that way is getting me absolutely nowhere. In college, I have met so many intelligent, talented, and focused women; and instead of being intimidated by them, I've started to learn from them. I think a lot of that is because I have finally figured out who I am, which has changed the way I see other women. Learning my own strengths has helped me celebrate the strengths of others.

Then sometimes, I start to think about how I make other girls feel. Then, I wondered if sometimes I'm the mean girl. I don't think anyone who knows me would classify me as one of those, but I wonder about when there have been instances where I made somebody else feel small.

I usually go out of my way to show kindness to other people, but what about on the bad days? When I'm having a rough day, do I always show other girls kindness, or have I made them feel as though they weren't as important as I am. I know girls have made me feel that way before. The thought was terrifying to me, but it has made me think more about the way I act. I'm lucky enough to have several women I can look up to; they are strong, powerful, but also kind. Those are the women who have made me feel like I mattered, and that's how I want people to remember the way I made them feel.

I didn't mean for this article to be "preachy" but then next time a girl makes you feel intimidated, just think about how amazing you are. But, remember that you also have the power to affect other people by how amazing you are.