If you are like me, you have an interesting personality. Basically, you love to be sassy and snarky, gossip, and act like a total bitch (not really), but deep down, you are actually a very genuinely nice person. The idea of actually hurting someone truly makes you feel bad, and you probably have never actually hurt someone’s feelings because your kindness always shines through, even if you do not want it to. Not sure exactly what I would call this type of personality, but if you identify with it, here are some feelings you can undoubtedly relate to.

1. You are honestly kind of offended when people say you are a nice person

Ugh, I go out and act like a bitch all the time just for people to think I’m nice? Great.

2. People think it’s cute when you act sassy

Because remember, everyone thinks you have no capability of being anything but sugary sweet so when something sassy comes out of your mouth, no one can take you seriously. Ugh, this is not supposed to be cute, this is serious business!

3. You always have people who annoy you but will not stop following you around

Who has not had this problem? There is that person who just annoys the sh*t out of you and you try as hard as you can (without being outwardly mean, of course) to let them know that you want absolutely nothing to do with them, yet they still are convinced you like them and will not leave you alone. Why does this person think I like them if I acted like such a b*tch to them? Oh right—I am incapable of actually coming across as mean. *facepalm*

4. You often have trouble deciding how you want to present yourself to people

Do I want to show them that I am actually really nice? Or should I act like a total (s)asshole so they will know not to mess with me so easily? Depends on the mood.

5. You have probably never actually hurt someone’s feelings

Once in a blue moon, your sassy comments get a bit out of hand (or so you think) and you worry for hours afterward that you actually, like, really offended someone. Then, when you go and apologize to them (because you are too nice not to, of course) they confess to you that they were never offended, either because your comment did not actually come across as mean at all or they “know you are too nice a person” to actually try and offend someone like that. Sigh, time to work harder.

6. Finding friends is such a struggle

You find it hard to be friends with people who are not actually nice, because deep down you are too nice to tolerate mean people—but you also cannot be friends with people who are too nice because they most likely will not be able to tolerate your sassiness. Ugh, that friendless life.

7. But actually, that is a joke because your flexible personality allows you to be friends with many people

You can basically convince anyone that you are really nice (because you are), and therefore most people want to be friends with you—but you also have enough snark (or snark attempts) to show people that you are not to be messed with, which is also a trait that many people admire.

8. You are secretly kind of (actually downright) jealous of queen bees, especially those from TV shows

Like, you wish you had the power to actually come across as being that snarky. But deep down, you are thankful that you are not capable of producing all the drama that Blair Waldorf gets herself into, so you just live vicariously through her while you sit back with the popcorn watching her on TV and enjoying your drama-free life.

9. You often read articles with titles such as “41 Signs You’re a Sasshole,” thinking they are going to be so relatable….

But then a few points in you realize that you do not relate to it at all, because deep down you are not actually a sasshole and no one actually thinks you are a bitch.

10. Sometimes you get really mad and wish you could actually come across as a total bitch…

11. …but at the end of the day, you are thankful for how nice you are

Okay, let’s face it—it is fun to be sassy, but deep down you know that being nice is going to get you much farther in life. You may even be a bit proud of the fact that everyone thinks you are nice—okay, you are really proud. You love being nice, and could not picture actually being mean to anyone. Let’s just be thankful that we can get away with being as sassy as we want and still come across as nice, because not many people can do that.