Social Media Is Impacting Our Views On Relationships

Social Media Is Negatively Impacting Our Views On Relationships

We need to focus on our unique relationships rather than everyone else's.


Pretty much everyone's relationships seem perfect on social media, with the exception of those few weird couples from high school that overshared every little detail (I'm pretty sure every high school had those couples, didn't they?).

That's the whole goal, though: we want everything to appear perfect to the public eye.

From selfies to pictures of vacations and food, to pictures with our friends, to pictures of our relationships -- we want all of it to look good. We want every one of our followers to think we are truly "living our best lives." While we're personally trying to frame ourselves as perfect, we're also drinking in everyone else's ideas of "perfect."

This is a huge problem when it comes to romance.

No one wants anyone to know that their relationship is rocky or less than perfect, and that's honestly for the better. Oversharing can kill relationships.

However, the result is we only see the very best of everyone else's relationships. Open Instagram and you see picture perfect couples who never do anything but take selfies together and go on romantic getaways. Open Twitter and you see photo sets of all of the thoughtful gifts everyone but you seems to be getting, and all of the cute text messages all the boyfriends except your own are sending. Open Facebook and you see all of your high school friends getting engaged at 22 while you're both still trying to figure your lives out.

It is SO important, for your own mental health and for the health of your relationship, to focus on yourselves and not what you see from everyone on social media.

Social media is meant for us to share the best of our lives and stay connected. Of COURSE you're not going to see the bad or the ugly on social media. Rather than stepping back and acknowledging this, we fixate on the perfection we see online and set that as our standard. We expect a Twitter-perfect, Insta-perfect relationship at all times when what we need is a relationship that is us-perfect.

Remember that every couple fights. Remember that a lot of couples break up, but you won't see that plastered on your Instagram feed. Remember that every person and every relationship is unique -- just because your friend's boyfriend likes to write her poems every night, doesn't mean your more reserved boyfriend isn't just as sweet and wonderful.

Don't project the unrealistic standard of social media perfection onto your relationship. Embrace your relationship as it is and see the beauty in what you share with only one other person -- the world will never be able to see true love between two people in any amount of posts or pictures.

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10 Rappers Whose Lyrics Will Take Your Instagram Captions To The Next Level

Make your life easy by choosing a caption that's already been written for you.


Finding the perfect caption for you Instagram post is something everyone struggles with. On the contrary, the best rappers in the industry right now seem to have no problem with it. Whether it be Cardi B or Kanye West, you can always count on fire captions. Taken from the rappers themselves, here are the best rap lyrics for Instagram captions.

1. Travis Scott

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  • "It's summertime, why they tryna throw shade?"
  • "Rollin' rollin' rollin' got me stargazin'"
  • "I got 'em stage diving out the nosebleeds"
  • "Anything can happen at the night show"
  • "This right here is astronomical"
  • "Valet park when I pull up in the ride"
  • "Pick up the phone, baby, I know you're home, baby"
  • "Oh my, what a wonderful time"
  • "She said 'where we goin?' I said 'the moon'"
  • "I been up sleepless late nights"
  • 2. Migos

    Migos II

    • "Walk it like I talk it"
    • "In the kitchen wrist moving like a stir fry"
    • "Put my mind on it, put my grind on it"
    • "We live like sopranos"
    • "Diamonds on my wrist stay drippin"
    • "Addin' up checks, no minus"
    • "I can buy that car, I know that you can't"
    • "No human being, I'm immortal"
    • "Walk in the buildin', they start applaudin'"
    • "Versace, Versace, Versace, Versace"

    3. Cardi B

    Cardi B be careful

    • "I like texts from my exes when they want a second chance"
    • "I went from dollar bills, now poppin' rubber bands"
    • "Why would I hop in some beef? When I could just hop in the Porsche"
    • "You know where I'm at, you know where I be"
    • "These expensive, these is red bottoms"
    • "I don't dance now, I make money moves"
    • "It's not a threat it's a warning, be careful with me"
    • "Poured out my whole heart to a piece of sh*t"
    • "Karma for you is gon' be who you end up with"

    4. Drake


    • "This a Rollie, not a stopwatch, sh*t don't ever stop"
    • "I only love my bed and my mama I'm sorry"
    • "I get it how I live it, I live it how I get it"
    • "No new friends"
    • "Drinking every night because we drink to my accomplishments"
    • "This sh*t got me in my feelings"
    • "With your phone out, gotta hit them angles"
    • "My ex asked me, 'Where you movin'?' I said, 'On to better things'"
    • "My team good, we don't really need a mascot"
    • "Got new money, got new problems, got new enemies"

    5. Nicki Minaj

    Nicki Minaj

    • "Imma keep it moving, be classy and graceful"
    • "In my kingdom, with my Timbs on"
    • "Uh, yo, watch your man, then you should watch your mouth"
    • "At least you took an L off your bucket list"
    • "Defend my honor, protect my pride"
    • "But to live doesn't mean you're alive"
    • "She just mad 'cause he never bought her ice like me"
    • "I fly with the stars in the skies"
    • "They paintin' me out to be the bad guy"
    • "All these b*tches is my sons"

    6. Mac Miller

    Mac Miller

    • "My regrets look just like a text I shouldn't send"
    • "Driving with my eyes close, missing all the signs"
    • "I'm a monster with the heart of a lion, divide and conquer"
    • "I got a bone to pick like roses"
    • "I'll do anything for a way out of my head"
    • "Your love is not too kind to me"
    • "Yeah, I got a bad attitude"
    • "No matter where life takes me, find me with a smile"
    • "Imma give you what you came for"
    • "I don't know 'bout you, but me, I'm important, I'm so gorgeous"

    7. A$AP Rocky 

    A$AP Rocky

    • "Same shit, different day"
    • "I got three phones: business, conversation, and relation"
    • "What the face say to the fist?"
    • "I look for ways to say 'I love you', but I ain't into makin' love songs"
    • "Paranoia got me losing all my z's"
    • "Make no mistakes, it's all a leap of faith for love"
    • "She ain't a stranger to the city life"
    • "Can't forget that I'm golden, can't forget where I'm going"
    • "Riding by the rules, I'll abide by it soon"
    • "Ain't a killer so don't kill the vibe"

    8. Kanye West

    Kanye West

    • "Yeah u so mother thick"
    • "Ball so hard, let's get faded"
    • "That sh*t cray"
    • "I'm tripping off the power"
    • "All of my kindness, is taken for weakness"
    • "I'm lookin' for the one have you seen her?"
    • "Don't let me get in my zone"
    • "Let's get lost tonight"
    • "Sun don't shine in the shade, bird can't fly in a cage"
    • "Reach for the stars so if you fall you land on a cloud"
    • "No you're not perfect but you're not your mistakes"

    9. A$AP Ferg

    A$AP Ferg

    • "Gucci down to the socks"
    • "My jewelry glistening why I'm always chilly"
    • "I'm a one night savage"
    • "Put in work, put 'em in the dirt"
    • "Fergy be mobbin' all day"
    • "Ferg is the name"
    • "I'm on a new level"
    • "Don't pray for me pray for the weak"
    • "I was only 8 years old, watching Nick at Nite"
    • "I was fly like a bird"

    10. Lil Wayne 

    Lil Wayne

    • "Real G's move in silence like lasagna"
    • "I speak the truth but I guess that's a foreign language to y'all"
    • "Okay you're a goon, but what's a goon to a goblin?"
    • "I got some weight on my shoulders, to me it's like feathers"
    • "I am more animal than the zoo allow"
    • "Money talks, bullsh*t walks"
    • "Every night's a long night, every day's a holiday"
    • "I'm a cool cat, but I'm on life nine"
    • "Haters can't see me, nose bleed seats"

    No matter what the occasion, it's always good to have creative Instagram captions on hand. Nobody knows how to make clever captions than rappers themselves. Whether you need creative caption for throwing shade at someone, or you have used only emojis for your past 5 Instagram pictures, rap lyrics make the perfect caption.

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    How Much Entertainment Is Too Much  Entertainment?

    We all need a break.


    My family is from the beautiful, snowy northern woods of Wisconsin. This past winter my husband and I visited my brother, his wife, and their sweet little one. After a morning of tea and breakfast, we bundled up little Ella in her pink snowsuit, sat in her very own red baby sled, and set out for a snowshoeing adventure.

    I remember looking back at Ella as I pulled her across the snow and seeing her small, chapped lips curve into a steady smile. Her big blue eyes would watch the flakes fall from the ridge of the snow-laden trail as she stuck out her small mittened hand. She was completely amused and delighted to be taken on such a grand adventure as she sat safely in her sled. What a lovely happening.

    It's an odd analogy, but it kind of reminds me of why I like entertainment, maybe why anyone likes entertainment. Just like my niece on that winter day, I get to be led into a scene without any use of my own mind or body getting there. I sit on my couch and let the lives of Instagram provide pictures and thoughts for me. I let T.V. make me laugh, I let a movie give me the opportunity to feel something that I wouldn't otherwise. It's fantastic.

    But there's also this layered down feeling that it's getting to be too much.

    There is so much stimulation, such high input. So much screen time, so much time eaten, so much mindlessness, so much information, so much musing. And it feels like not enough of my own engagement or creativity is practiced to help create and contribute to making a change. I'm watching life happen before my eyes and allowing productivity and my own thought contribution to lay limp and flaccid.

    Consider the up and downs of watching the news. We are shown a bombing, and then just thirty seconds later are expected to applaud at a charitable event taking place downtown. Our minds and emotions are unintentionally trained to desensitize ourselves to certain happenings. If we were to mourn every sorrowful event, our grieving would make up our life. And so, we've begun to disengage.

    Unfortunately, it's one of those really annoying things because all of this is in the concrete of our culture. It would be hell-a difficult to create a reality that is set apart from the norm of news stations, Netflix binges, Facebook, Instagram, email, commercials, YouTube, etc. We have become a digital culture, and I'm starting to wonder what kind of implications this will have on our society, the future, our government, myself, and the people I love. We have entered into a new age and no longer have the luxury of backtracking out of the technology rampage we are on. Better, faster, more efficient.

    I'm truly not a technology-hating-junkie that's out to get all of the world's advances. But I am one that is a bit skeptical of the human's capacity to manage all of it. As we become more isolated from one another, more disengaged, and potentially more anxious, will we recognize our need for independence from the vast of what we are fed every day?

    I think about all of the minutes that I've wasted watching videos, following celebrities, scrolling, and I ache over the time that has been lost.

    As the next generation, we have to be attentive, moving, and ready. Jesus is real and our minutes are adding up. What are all of them accumulating to?

    "The day of the Lord will come like a thief in the night" 1 Thessalonians 5:2

    Make each one of your minute's count, friends.

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