Research has shown that social media can affect the quality of our relationships. In fact, one survey study of 205 Facebook users demonstrated that a higher level of Facebook usage was associated with negative relationship outcomes. Issues arose that led to disastrous events such as breakups and divorces.
Yes, breakups can be hard, and they can be very painful. However, it is important not to air any "dirty laundry" over the internet. No one cares who did what unless they are there just for the gossip. If you start "exposing" the person you broke off with, what do you get out of it? Money? Fame? A new relationship? The answer is definitely NO.
So please, do not create a situation in which you may be seen as idiotic. You must learn to cope in other ways. By learning to cope in a different manner, you grow as a person both in maturity and emotionally. Being around people who care about you, like friends and family, your mind will be put at ease. These people will lift you up and take away your feelings of being lesser.
if social media is truly hurting your relationship, I suggest that you remove toxic people from your social media altogether. People that may make you feel as if your life is not good enough or put you down. Even removing someone from a previous relationship can help in this process.
It can be hard to look at your exes, constantly seeing the people who may have caused you so much emotional distress can delay the healing process. If your goal is to remain friends with your ex, a conversation with them noting that you need your distance while the breakup is still fresh may be a good idea.
This distance will allow for time to be able to mend your own emotions. During this time, you can reflect on your feelings and make more rational decisions and good faith in your recovered emotional state.
While social media can be a great way to connect with those we haven't seen in a while and keep in contact with family and friends, it can have many unforeseen negative consequences that may have detrimental effects in your everyday life. Avoid focusing too much on the illusions of other's lives on social media.
Your life with your current partner should be experienced in a meaningful way. Do not focus on the facade presented by social media. Life is too precious to worry about an existence that is not your own. Go out and experience the magic of your individual life. As the old saying goes, "Take the time to stop and smell the roses."
