What’s the worst thing you can call a woman? Not the absolute worse but still offensive. Think hard… harder… okay not that hard. A bitch. If I had a dime for every time I got called a bitch I could pay for your tuition.

People will call you a bitch for any reason whatsoever. You stand up for yourself, you’re a bitch. You don’t speak, you’re a bitch. You tell someone the truth, you’re a bitch. You can’t win. If being a bitch means standing up for what I believe in and being honest then yeah I guess I am a bitch. You know what really gets me? People in my life tell me I’m a bitch like it’s supposed to be a new piece of information I never knew about myself and I am supposed to be shocked and miraculously decide to change my ways. Sorry, but that’s not going to happen and here’s why.

If you need advice and you are looking for someone to offer you guidance, I am your girl. I am blunt and not afraid to say what’s on my mind. I will not sugar coat anything for you. I refuse to lie to you just because you can’t hear the truth. I am the type of person who will always tell you the truth no matter what. So if being honest makes me a bitch then so be it. I’ve had friend approach me once about my way of speaking to one of our mutual friends at the time. She said to me “Adrianna you have to be careful how you speak to people not everyone can handle the things you say, be a littler gentler. Because some people think you’re a bitch” I was perplexed and bewildered.

When I originally thought of the word bitch the connotation was obviously negative. Not only is bitch an extremely gendered word it is also seen as very negative. So being called one I tried to think about what I did that would give merit to someone calling me that and couldn’t for the life of me figure it out. My friend noticed my confusion and reminded me of a situation between me and our mutual friend and how I confronted her about her actions. No need to go to into detail about my personal life. But the gist of the supposed confrontation was basically just me explaining why I did not appreciate my friend’s behavior.

If I am mad at someone or have a problem with someone I am sure to let them know my exact reason for being angry at them. My honesty with them which then in turn turns into them referring to me as a bitch. At that moment that’s when I realized that being a bitch wasn’t a bad thing after all. Whenever I am called a bitch usually it is for standing up for myself, having an opinion, or not standing for anyone’s bullshit.

So if that’s what makes me a bitch then so what if I’m a bitch.