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What’s Better? Being The Girlfriend Of Someone You Don’t Really Like Or Just Being 'Something' With Someone You Might Love?

What's more important in a relationship? The title or the bond?

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What’s Better? Being The Girlfriend Of Someone You Don’t Really Like Or Just Being 'Something' With Someone You Might Love?
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Ladies, if you're reading this right now and you've either one, been in a situationship with a guy before or two, are currently in a situationship with someone now, I want you to visualize that guy's face.

Now think about the time you two first met whether that was through a group project during class, during random night at a party, after swiping right on Tinder, or during karaoke night at a bar. Now I want you to think about how quickly this guy went from being almost a complete stranger to someone you talk to everyday. You suddenly started to anticipate and long for his texts and became more and more eager to spend time with him. Now envision the point where things started to heat up as you two went out on dates and eventually had sex for the first time.

It seemed like things could have only gotten better from there, right? Well, not exactly. Now picture the exact moment when you slipped up and asked him those three dangerous words: "What are we?"

Then think about all the mixed emotions you may have had when he gave you an answer you didn't particularly like.

This is a common scenario among people in their 20s so if you've been through it then you're not alone. I'm not saying that every "What are we?" conversation happens exactly like this, but this tends to be the how a lot of them play out.

You may have even decided for yourself that you're not ready to take that next step of commitment either, which is understandable. We're young, and we still have a lot of life to live—Lord willing. We also have a tremendous amount of pressure with school and a future career so the fewer distractions we have, the better off we'll be.

Still, most girls question what they have with that guy is even real because of the fact that there's no title. Besides, there usually aren't any elicit boundaries. Also more likely than not, both parties aren't on the same page in terms of the direction of how they want the situationship to evolve into.

Given that there are equal pros and cons to both, what's actually better? Ideally, the relationship would have both, but let's put this into a different context. Let's say that at the moment you couldn't have both. Then would you rather try and move on to someone else who you may not have as strong of feelings for, but you know the relationship will be simple and easy? Or would you stay in the situationship with the person you really love, knowing that the "title" may come awhile from now?

By the way, I'm not talking about those situationships when the other person is obviously using the situationship to manipulate you into doing intimate things without the commitment. I also don't mean to diminish the importance of having a title in any way. However, I'm specifically talking about those type of relationships where you have legitimate reasons for not wanting to be together that way YET.

I'm referring to people who are trying to reach their goals without losing focus or others who don't see the point of claiming someone as theirs until they know for sure that's the one they'll spend the rest of their life with. That being said, as long as the feelings are mutual and both of you are on the same page about what the expectations are then getting caught up on semantics may not be as important as you might think.

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