The average person has about 5-6 relationships in their lifetime (it's okay if your number is lower or higher though).
Some stick with you for years on end, some you can be over within just a matter of a few days. Then you finally have that one. The one that you think will never end. How can you tell if it's actually stable? Unstable relationships are unfortunately more common than stable ones, and this anxiety baffles couples constantly.
These are seemingly small signs that make a big difference in proving the stability of a couple's love.
1. You love to communicate.
My boyfriend of almost a year and I made this huge pact when we first started dating: We will always communicate. We both had some pretty unstable relationships in the past, and we learned from the mistakes we made big time. No matter what the problem is, if it bugs us for a significant amount of time, we have to talk about it. No exceptions.
2. You allow yourselves to be vulnerable to each other.
Being 100% yourself is HUGE when it comes to dating. You should be able to be comfortable with each other and be able to put your guard down. You can allow them to see sides of you that you don't show to anyone else, and it's such a relieving feeling to know that you have that trust.
3. Your well-being is #1.
Health, happiness, and safety must play a role in the relationship. Your pain becomes their pain, and you will do anything to make sure that your significant other is taken care of, and they will for sure do the same for you. Stressed about school? Comfort them and keep their spirits up. Sick? Check in with them to see how their doing if you're not there, or go a step further and make some soup for them. Little or big things like those show that you care.
4. You don't have to have constant communication to feel secure.
The constant need to be with them or talking to them may suit some couples. I mean, sure, you miss them and would like to spend time with them, but the need to be in contact all the time is not healthy. You can't let that feeling consume either of you, enjoy your own lives!
5. You actually fight.
If a couple has been dating for a while and say they don't fight at all, then they are either lying or they are not as strong as they think they are. It's healthy to fight over things every once in a while. It makes the relationship stronger once you move past it. You overcome those obstacles head-on and learn from them. Little obstacles can help teach you how to work together to overcome the larger obstacles later on in the relationship.
6. You motivate each other.
If you are with your person, they should not hold you back from achieving your goals. If they do, ditch them. Your partner should be uplifting you and pushing you to reach your goals. Whether it's college, work, sports, or any other situation in your life. You're both in this together.
7. They connect with your family and friends.
For me, my family and friends are the biggest parts of my life. These people are always there for you, and if your new partner can't understand that and becomes a wedge within those relationships, then they're not worth it. Find someone who connects with them and becomes a part of the family or friend group.
8. Space is necessary.
Suffocating your partner is one of the worst things you can do. Being clingy and with each other 24/7 is not healthy. Also, you should never make the other person feel guilty for not giving you enough attention, they really don't need to talk to you on the phone 14 times a day. Make sure you give each other your own time.
9. You keep things like "date night" alive.
Especially when you exit the honeymoon phase, that little spark should still be burning. You can do things like having a date night, sending a good morning text, and doing random little surprises will ensure the spark is alive and well.
10. They're your best friend.
They are the first person you want to talk to about your day or share big news with. It doesn't always have to be picture perfect romantic! You can be goofy during a Netflix night or have deep conversations during date night. They're there for you through thick and thin, and there's nothing that will be able to break that bond.
