There is so much to love about being in a relationship. The comfort of knowing there will be someone who sits by you and consoles you after a bad day at work. That feeling of completeness which can come from having a nurturing individual share a bond of feeling and thought with you. Or just having a person who will accompany you on adventures and tease you for some weird habit that you do. Good relationships are precious. That's why it's always best to take your time when you are trying to find one.
When thinking of everything you could have in a relationship, it can become quite easy to fall into the follies of desperation, overly toxic self-criticism, and obsession with finding someone to be with. None of these are helpful, and none of these will get you what you want. Patience is the name of this complicated game we call life. Finding satisfaction and completeness in your accomplishments, friends, and adventures is the sure-fire way to maintain this act of patience and ultimately meet a genuine person.
It can be very hard to be single when you think about what you may lacking but being single is actually incredibly healthy and has its own benefits. Personal freedom is a huge bonus to being single. You can do what you, when you want, and most of the time how you want. You don't need someone else to make yourself happy. By approaching life as though you are loving it all instead of trying to have someone else love you, you have the ability to live freely.
A person who lives life and does it because they love to go through it is all the happier because they are not constantly seeking the approval of others. They don't need to impress anyone or feel as though their lives won't be happy unless someone likes them. They are their own persons. When a person who they actually like comes along, it won't feel as though they had to go through a disappointing number of weeks, months, or years. It'll just be another pleasant event in a long string of pleasant events in their life.
That pleasant event can mark the beginning of something wonderful. Until then, however, it is a poor idea to constantly look for that person in everyone you see. Rarely does anyone like someone who is constantly trying to rush toward them in the hopes of starting something. Treating everyone you meet as you would a friend is not just respectful, it's also useful in avoiding the aches of rejection or the awkwardness of romantic tension. Everyone wants friends, but not everyone wants a romantic partner.
All this is a matter of putting your thoughts into a certain mindset. Once it's there, though, the relief is momentous. I would have done anything to appease someone I liked two years ago. Drove any distance, said anything to make them happy, extended gifts of affection, and tolerated anything they may say or do just so I could have a chance to be with them. I now know better than to actively push for a relationship. I now know it's better to enjoy life and patiently wait for that one person to come along and hope that they may want to join me.
