College is a tough time for everyone who makes the decision to go. It consists of always being broke, eating leftovers (even if you don’t want to.. you don’t have a choice), pulling all nighters and most importantly trying to figure out who the heck we even are. The money situation sucks, the people come and go, and maintaining a romantic relationship isn’t always the easiest thing to do. Trust me when I say I have had my fair share of heartbreak and I have had my fair share of being let down by guys.. but as I’ve gotten older, I have come to the realization that it’s 100 pecent OK to be single throughout college. Reflecting back on my experiences throughout college I can name at least ten reasons why being in a relationship is probably not the best idea.
1. We become so vulnerable to letting people in.
During any situation where you start to actually care about someone and catch the feels you become more susceptible to getting your feelings hurt and potentially your heart broken. Wouldn’t you rather save being vulnerable for prince charming once you know for a fact that you’re ready?
2. Girl-- WORK. ON. YOU.
I cannot stress this enough actually. You’re in college, you’re supposed to take time to really figure out who you are and what you want to do with your life. Now is the perfect time to make it all about you. Everyone has issues to work on, use it to build yourself and mature then think about a relationship later. You’ll regret it if ya don’t.
3. My Mamaw once said, “the male is actually always three years behind."
His age mentally.” So if he’s 20, he has the mind of a 17 year old. And now that I think about it, she is totally not wrong.
4. I’ve never seen a better opportunity for fun, college is FUN.
Right? Now of course there are limitations to some of the fun we get to have but a man doesn’t and never should be one.
5. Nine out of 10 times there shouldn’t be a doubt in your mind that he is always gonna put his boys first and you’ll have to be all whiny about how you thinks he doesn’t give you enough attention.
That's not going to change, so why even risk spending the time to overthink it?
6. Focus on your studies, dude.
You literally have so much time to figure out guy things later on but for now your future is in your own hands.
7. You are not their mamma even though they might think you are.
Why would you wanna spend some of your college years picking up after a guy? Some of them can’t do their own laundry and all of them are unaware of how to flip down the toilet seat after they use it.
8. You're already sensitive.
Especially with all the new experiences hitting you with school. If you date someone now, you already know you will be in your feelings 25/8. It’s really annoying like.. go find a pair of shoes to buy or something.
9. We are all SO broke.
If you can’t even spend money on a two for $3 at McDonald’s (ME) then I’m probably not going to have the money to buy you a gift for our six months or more realistically buy us both movie tickets when it’s my turn on date night.
10. We are both on different playing grounds.
Guys and girls don’t have the same mindset going into their college experience, embrace the fact you can stop while you’re ahead and chill. There’s nothing wrong with being single. Like at all.
Now, I hope those of you who read this IN a serious college relationship don’t take this the wrong way. I’m not speaking for you but instead the 80 percent of us who are single. I’m actually happy for ya like that’s awesome you can be serious and not lose your mind. I can’t stress enough to every girl I know that being in a relationship isn’t everything.. it is 100 percent OK to be single right now.
