I absolutely love being single. I love having the freedom to do whatever I want, whenever I want, with whomever I want. Nothing is more relaxing then coming home after a long day of work to a nice cheesy pizza you order all for yourself to eat while curled up watching Netflix. I'm not going to lie. I love being by myself, in fact I hope by next year I'll be living completely by myself without a roommate.
However, I am so sick of being single! I'm sick of being single because it is so infuriatingly confusing trying to figure out how not to be single. I hate this! Now the the millennial generation is an amazing generation, at least that's my personal opinion, but we for some reason we can't figure out this dating thing.
I feel like part of the problem is that we have so much access to the world. As soon as we start talking to someone we think "maybe there is someone else? Maybe there is someone better?" So we don't commit, we'd rather keep our options open.
Another part of the problem is that we don't want to be vulnerable. I am the biggest offender of this. I am such an independent person that I would never want anyone to see my at my weakest lowest points. However, to be in a relationship you need to be vulnerable. How else is it going to work? But it's not just being vulnerable that is the scariest part, it's dedicating so much time and affection into someone for them to just decide they don't want any of it. That's the worst. You give so much then when they leave, they literally take pieces of you with them... It's hard to put a puzzle together when you don't have all the pieces, in fact it's impossible.
Now let's talk about the fact that there are so many double standards now. Girls can't have a bunch of guys to keep on deck for a rainy day but guys can have as many as they want with no problem. There's also the fact that if a girl is talking to more than one guy at a time it's a problem, but if it's a guy it's perfectly fine. In fact, they'll say the girl is crazy if she gets upset about him talking to more than one girl. Like we should settle for less.
Now there are these double standards and I completely understand that they are not all true. But I feel the worst is that our generation is so out of the loop on how to date that we don't really know how to do it. We grew up in a world were heart emoji's on a picture was the best way to flirt or liking enough of their statuses would get their attention. I feel like even if dating was something our generation really wanted to do we wouldn't even know where to start. So why even try?
Try because the worst that can happen is you get your heart broken, but I guarantee you'll be able to put the pieces back together. Try because, it's fun. Dating is fun. Getting to know people is fun. If it is super awkward, which 80% of the time it is, you'll have something to laugh about later. Try because love still exists and you may just find the love of your life. I believe that that makes all the laughs, awkwardness, double standard mess, vulnerability, giving up lonely pizza nights and potential heartache completely worth it.