11 Habits Of People Have Been Mentally Abused
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11 Commonalities Between People Who Have Been Mentally Abused

We know we're fragile, we are trying, but please be patient.

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11 Commonalities Between People Who Have Been Mentally Abused
Lexi Link

People who have been mentally or physically abused have certain habits that will stick with them for a while, maybe even their whole lives. We know some of them do not make sense and you are probably thinking just get over it but we have tried and it is not that simple. We know it can be a lot at times and we don't need you to remind us but instead be patient and try to understand what we have been through.

We apologize way too much

Even if something isn't our fault we will apologize anyway because we feel as though we hurt you.

We need lots of reassurance

We are used to constantly being told what we are doing wrong so we need to constantly know when we are doing something right.

We tend to break down over the small things

We are used to small disagreements turning into big ones and being drug out so we get scared when there is a disagreement big or small.

We hide our feelings

We do not want to hurt anyone else so we hide our own to protect others feelings.

We have low self esteem

We are used to being torn down every second of everyday. We do not believe we have value or see the value in ourselves.

We are people pleasers

We do not like confrontation so we do absolutely everything possible to make sure we make everyone else happy.

We are extremely quiet

Again we do not want to hurt others so we stay quiet to keep from offending others.

We have a hard time accepting compliments

We are not used to genuine compliments so when we receive them we second guess them and maybe ask 'are you talking to me' even if there is no one else in the room. Be patient with us, it may take us a minute to say thank you and we may not seem sincere, we just aren't used to it.

We feel like we are doing everything wrong

We are used to being told all that we do wrong so we are going to automatically assume we are doing everything wrong.

We have trust issues

We are used to people using what we have told them against us so we have a hard time trusting other people with our lives because we do not want someone else to use it against us.

We are indecisive to say the least

Again we are people pleasers so we will wait until the last minute to make a decision because we want it to be the right one and the one you will like the best.

Give us a chance. I promise once we get comfortable and warm up to you we will be there for you through anything!

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