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15 Signs The Person You're Dating May Actually Be Dangerous

If you hope something goes wrong in the relationship so they can break up with you first, you're in danger - end of story.

Emmie Pombo

Oct 16, 2020

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15 Signs The Person You're Dating May Actually Be Dangerous

Coming from someone who lived in fear for a whole year in a past relationship, I wish I had these signs mapped out for me to go off of when I was in it myself.

In my experience, the minute I realized I was in a dangerous relationship was when I hoped and prayed for something to go wrong so my ex would leave me first so he wouldn't get mad at me. Thinking that way messed me up for a long time, and I realized there's more to life than living in fear of someone who is supposed to love you. Here are 15 signs that point to a dangerous and abusive relationship.

If you feel like you're in danger, call 9-1-1 or 1-800-799-SAFE (if not urgent), you can also chat with someone live, here.

1. If you have to walk on eggshells around them.

2. If you make excuses for their abusive behavior.

3. If you're terrified of their anger outbursts.

4. If you pray for other things to go wrong so you can get out of the relationship.

5. If you don't feel safe voicing your opinions.

6. If you cover up their personality to others.

7. If you blame yourself for problems in order to avoid conflict.

8. If you feel scared to tell them how you feel.

9. If you're not able to be yourself.

10. If you feel like there's no way out.

11. If you start lashing out at others because of them.

12. If you lose friendships and other relationships.

13. If you sabotage yourself.

14. If you look forward to even small amounts of time alone.

15. If you're too scared to ask for help.

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If you hope something goes wrong in the relationship so they can break up with you first, you're in danger - end of story.

1. If you have to walk on eggshells around them.

2. If you make excuses for their abusive behavior.

3. If you're terrified of their anger outbursts.

4. If you pray for other things to go wrong so you can get out of the relationship.

5. If you don't feel safe voicing your opinions.

6. If you cover up their personality to others.

7. If you blame yourself for problems in order to avoid conflict.

8. If you feel scared to tell them how you feel.

9. If you're not able to be yourself.

10. If you feel like there's no way out.

11. If you start lashing out at others because of them.

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13. If you sabotage yourself.

14. If you look forward to even small amounts of time alone.

15. If you're too scared to ask for help.

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Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

It's mandatory to have these conversations.

1. What do you do for a living?

2. What's your favorite color?

3. Do you have any siblings?

4. What's your favorite television show?

5. When is your birthday?

6. What's your biggest goal in life?

7. If you had three wishes granted to you by a genie, what would they be?

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17. Can you describe yourself in three words?

18. What makes you the most nervous in life?

19. What's the best gift you have ever received?

20. What do you do to relax/have fun?

21. What are your priorities at this phase of your life?

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You're able to go to the restaurants by the water wearing minimal clothing.

Having unexpected problems with your boat.

Having a name for your boat unique to you and your life.

There's no better place you'd rather be in the summer.

Why I Chose a Small School Over a Big University.

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2. I am not just a number at my school.

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5. My professors know me and I feel that I can easily communicate with them.

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