I’m an extrovert. I’ve taken personality test after personality test and I’m an extrovert. I’m also shy. But, only in some situations and on certain days. Which is weird, I know, but I don’t know why it happens.

Meeting new people I try to find things to talk about yet around some people I am fine and can talk like nothing is wrong.

But, other people, I close off and don’t have any idea what to do. Or what to talk about. Or how to feel about socializing.

I get asked all the time “Are you always this quiet?” The answer is a definite no. But how do I tell someone I just met, “Nope, I’m just shy right now,” or, “I am not comfortable around you yet.”

I have things to talk about and I have opinions but sometimes I’m not comfortable and that’s OK.

That doesn’t mean that I’m not capable of adapting to situations and I am bad at meeting new people. Sometimes I just feel the stress of not knowing what to talk about or not wanting to be judged that I find it better to observe rather than to speak.

I like to observe. I like knowing how much I can say or not say before I just jump right into opening up.

Over the years I have found that most of the time I get shy in situations I know mean a lot. Meeting new people who mean a lot to the people I love or are important to my future are what triggers my being shy.

Being shy every so often is OK. It doesn’t mean that I don’t have room to improve or that is how I ALWAYS interact. I have been strong and open in many situations and things always work out well.

I am constantly learning things about myself and I noticed recently being an occasionally shy extrovert is part of who I am. I am working on how to get better and improve my communication skills and that is a great feeling.

I can’t apologize for who I am, but I can work to fix it.