No matter what you do, someone will always find something to say about you – positive or negative. Sometimes many take it to heart and others just don’t give a care in the world (like me). Why should you care about what someone has to say about you? Unless you’re in the dark about a situation and they want to shed light on the topic at hand that you’re in or could possibly fall into, why does it matter what they say? There are various things people always have the urge to comment on, but I have a top two that irk me to capacity.
1. Clothes
Being that I’m of the female gender, (and I speak for all girls who can relate or agree with what I’m saying), I’m expected to dress a certain way. According to society, I’m supposed to dress in a sexy manner, but if I get advanced towards by another in a disrespectful way, it’s my fault. My dress is either too short, too tight, or I have too much cleavage showing which means I “want” to be groped and touched. According to my religious parents, I’m supposed to dress in a “modest” way which basically (means to me) is them telling me to dress in nothing but skirts and dresses below my ankles and shirts that are at least up to half of my neck. With all of these standards of the way I’m supposed to dress or the way that women are supposed to dress, we’re pleasing everyone but ourselves. If you have a sense of fashion or style that you like, go for it! Express yourself the way you see fit. Now I’m not encouraging or telling anyone to roam around in public naked, but don’t ever make yourself unhappy to please another. The person telling you to change your style has a style of their own. I’m assuming that you’re not telling them how to look or dress, so why are they telling you what to wear? At the end of the day, you are your own best friend so remember to always make yourself happy.
2. Your Significant Other
Now I’m not going to lie – I’ve had something to say about my friends’ boyfriends and guys they were attracted to in the past, but I realized how wrong I was. People have their own preference of who they want to date so you shouldn’t expect a friend or anyone in general to have the same or similar taste as you. I’ve had instances where I told my friend that she was too pretty for the boyfriend that she was with at the time and now that I look back at it, I was wrong. Who someone decides to date is their own business and you shouldn’t have something to say about their significant other unless they ask you for your opinion. If you’re old enough to have someone serious in your life, then you should know whether or not he or she is good to have a relationship or potential future with. Parents are usually the hardest to get through to when you introduce them to the new significant other in your life. Of course they want the best for their kids and have good intentions, but sometimes their judgement of your significant other is clouded because they can’t come into terms with the fact that their little boy or girl is all grown up, or they just simply don't like them. We all know that our friends always have something to say about your man or woman. They comment saying that he or she is too ugly, too fat, too skinny, etc., forgetting that he or she is YOUR significant other, NOT theirs. He or she is supposed to make YOU happy, not them. The next time that someone has something to say about someone in your life, remind them that they are there to make YOU and no one else happy. Be with who you want to be with (within reason of course) because when the time comes for your friend or whoever to have someone special in their lives, they’ll probably drop you for having something negative to say.
Make. Yourself. Happy. Trying to please others and caring about their opinions will do nothing but wear you out and make you feel fed up. I assure you that someone somewhere will ALWAYS HAVE AN OPINION TO GIVE YOU. If you try to keep up with all of the opinions thrown at you, you will go crazy. I strongly advise you to block out negativity from anyone. Be happy. Take care of yourself. Most importantly, do you. Life is too short to be unhappy. To all: have a lovely week, xo.
“My philosophy is: it’s none of my business what people say of me and think of me. I am what I am, and I do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. And it makes life so much easier.”
-Anthony Hopkins
