On an average day, I am usually left feeling like I'm just a little bit too nice; a bit too forgiving, too quiet, or too sensitive towards other people's feelings. There are times when I wish I could say "no" more, and when I wish I cared less if others are left feeling disappointed, upset or angry. I have always been a people-pleaser- someone who loves to see others smiling, who's willing to lend a helping hand regardless of the circumstances. I tend to put the happiness of others above my own, and in return, I am usually left feeling one of two ways-- extremely proud and selfless, or completely and utterly drained. While there are certainly occasions when I wish I could change my personality and become someone stronger, less sensitive, and more worried about myself, small moments in my life make me realize I wouldn't want change at all.
Growing up, the most important lesson my mother ever taught me was simple: when a person is being unkind, rude or straight-up nasty, there is never a need to be a reflection of them. Mathematically, adding two negatives and expecting a positive number is unreasonable, so why should we expect a positive outcome from two negative attitudes? The most unkind people are usually the ones who need your kindness the most, and those left with a sour taste in their mouth over your infectious good mood will eventually realize that their bitterness is unnecessary. The truth is, it takes a great amount of strength to feel like the world is against you and still keep doing your thing with a smile on your face, and it's a skill that I'm proud to have mastered. As much as I'd like to throw the towel in some days, it's better knowing that no one has the power to bring me down, but I have the ability to bring someone up with just a few kind words.
In the end, you are capable of turning around a bad day, changing a terrible mood and ultimately, making a difference in another person's life– so why not take advantage of that? Being kind truly pays off in the long run, even when you feel like it's getting you nowhere. The truth is, everyone just wants to meet someone who is genuinely considerate, who has a positive energy and a contagious smile. People almost always react well to being treated with care and respect, and those who don't will only end up wishing they had. The best part is, you'll always have a certain leverage over those who would rather see you miserable. So through every dirty look, rude remark, and careless gesture, stay happy, stay calm, and stay kind– it drives people insane.
