I'll be honest, there are some people who seem like they really do "have their life together"... But do they really? What does that phrase even mean? What qualifies as having your life together?

I've recently seen many people talk about how they don't have their life together and it seems like everyone else does. This statement does not match reality at all. The basis of these assumptions often stems from a perception of a 'perfect' person. You see these people on social media being attractive and having an amazing social life. You have to remember that they perfectly sculpt every picture to satisfy their superior image.

Even knowing that social media is fake, some people still seem perfect. Why is that so? We start to look at their accomplishments as evidence for them "having their life together." We think things like, "Oh she's student body president and on the dance team and has a great boyfriend." We pin those details as accomplishments that we do not possess. We don't realize that behind those details there is a real person with real struggles. The existence of accomplishments does not negate any hardships.

"She's goals." Having goals is a good thing, but idolizing them to the point of ignoring any flaws can be dangerous. Having goals that help you become a better person is great, but often times, our "goals" become a reminder of who we are not.

Believe it or not, there may be others who look at you like you have "your life together." If someone called you perfect, I bet you would reject that statement instantaneously. Your brain automatically goes toward your latest life struggle. Everyone has those struggles and certainly does not publish them on their Facebook feed.

Another important factor in the perception of the perfect person: stage in life. I see this happen most often with high schoolers looking at YouTubers. Little 15-year-old girls should not be comparing their life to a 24-year-old famous YouTuber. Those are two very different places in life. This quote demonstrates this situation, "Don't compare your beginning to someone else's end." On that note, just remember that no one has their life perfectly together!