Ah, the good old Tinder. Where horny college boys are mixed with young, salacious firefighters, doctors, and the occasional lawyers. Of course, this is a generalization as individuals looking for friends and/or something real are also thrown into the mix of people—these beings are the ones I search for.
But, more specifically, I look for the guys who know who they are. I look for those who can define themselves. Who aren't afraid of the question, "Can you describe yourself in five adjectives?" So no, this isn't about pictures of dogs or babies or abs or dicks—the sexiest thing a guy, on Tinder or not, can do is know themselves.
Although I'm not an expert on dating apps, the overall consensus from friends is that the boys on Tinder suck. They suck because they're boring. They only want to hook up. They have no motivation, inspiration, or creation.
However, maybe they just need to mature and find out who they are.
Some boys have true personalities but need a push to really grasp who they are. We are all growing and learning who we are as beings, but it's very attractive when someone has goals—a beating heart—and can talk to you about what makes them different than others.
The Prince Charmings on Tinder are the ones who can introduce themselves as they stare into your eyes and read your soul.
The beings who have interests around the world, and are passionate about developing themselves into human beings. These people are special.
Guys who can say that they are, for example, outgoing, courageous, ambitious, funny, loyal, and passionate (or whatever way they illustrate themselves) are the guys who really stand out from the numerous blur of boys found on Tinder. These are the guys that are going somewhere as they can confidently state who they are and what they want to be.
You have to love yourself before you love anyone else. We have all heard this statement, but there is a thin line between confident and cocky. This statement is more associated to what I believe is knowing yourself rather than having an utter obsession with yourself—cue nonstop selfies, hours in front of the mirror, and conversations about your rock hard abs.
So, boys, stop aimlessly posting pictures of your abs thinking that women will fall to your feet. Even girls who are looking for a casual hookup want to find men that are interesting and intriguing. Take some time to ask yourself how your friends would describe you, how your family would describe you, how you would describe yourself.
