Why Waiting Until Marriage To Have Sex Is Unrealistic And Flawed
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Why Waiting Until Marriage To Have Sex Is Unrealistic And Flawed

The truth about premarital sex.

Why Waiting Until Marriage To Have Sex Is Unrealistic And Flawed

In cultures all around the world, pre-teens to teenagers are told to wait until they are married to have any sexual relations.

Plenty of young adults live by this and wait until they have met the right person that they want to spend the rest of their lives with to have sex.

Don't get me wrong -- if this is what you want to do, you should put your all into it and not be afraid to admit that you are staying abstinent until marriage. What I am saying is that instead of basing it off what your parents, friends, and religious leaders have told you, do it because you think it's what is best with you emotionally and physically.

Waiting until marriage to have sex is an archaic way of thinking.

It's another way of oppressing someone, especially women.

Women have been bullied into thinking that if they do have sex out of wedlock, they are automatically sluts and whores and shamed for expressing themselves and their feelings in a way they see fit.

Your body is your own body, and if you choose to have sex, you deserve to be allowed to do that without the fear of being pointed out as someone who is a bad person for being promiscuous. Society is constantly changing, and if we don't move along with it, we can be caught behind in a world which is not progressing.

In the Bible, it says, “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.”

I think it is great to have a sturdy belief system, but you can't follow it blindly.

The bible was written in completely different time. A time without the knowledge that we have now. While it's nice having something to believe in, you can only take parts of the bible with a grain of salt. Just because at one point in time it was not acceptable to have sex outside of marriage, doesn't mean it is now. At one point in time, people believed slavery was okay, too.

Some may claim that sex is better when you are with the person you are married to because you are in love and meant to be together. While this may be true in some cases, sex is a biological act. While it can be better with someone you are emotionally invested in, it does not determine how good the actual sexual act is.

It just furthers your bond with another person, which can be a beautiful thing even if you do not end up being with that person for the rest of your life.

Overall, people should do what they want with their own bodies without being worried that it's not morally right. If you are educated in sexual intercourse and feel as though you are with a person you feel comfortable having sex with and you think the time is right for you, you shouldn't do it based on other peoples opinions.

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