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If You Hook Up With A Guy, You're Gonna Catch Feelings, Facts Are Facts

You're gonna catch some on your path. Oh baby, does it hurt, but it's inevitable and life goes on.

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Ladies, we've all been there. You meet a guy. You like how he looks. You like what he's saying to you. You like the vibes. You like the sex. Then our hearts and minds collaborate to do this cute little thing often referred to as "catching feelings."

Sis, at this point you better pull out the pint of ice cream and start a three-way call with the girls, because it's gonna be one hell of a ride.

Okay, so nobody ever PLANS on catching feelings. It's accidental. Here, think of it this way. If you're constantly texting or Snapping someone, you're gonna make it apart of your daily routine to speak to them. You think nothing of it, just someone that you talk to every day - that is until you don't speak for one day and you feel weird.

You feel empty, perhaps lonely? And that, my friends, is the first indication that your heart is playing you! You've developed a feeling of comfort when speaking to this person, that you feel that it's a necessity to talk to them from morning to night. Face it, you're already attached.

Girls, think again before hooking up with that person or you might just be setting yourself up for failure. In today's day and age, hooking up is no big deal. Strangers going home with strangers, exes going home with exes, even best friends are doing it. Sex is all chemistry. I don't mean to burst your bubble or anything, but if you hook up with that guy that you've been non-stop texting, the feels you already contracted are just gonna become reinforced post intimacy.

After the first time, it usually happens on several other occasions, leading you to crave the touch of this person all the time. The sad part is the fact that since y'all aren't dating or exclusive, what you thought was special treatment is probably being done with other girls. There's your second indication! So at this point, you're emotionally and physically attached, and you're running out of options.

The term "crush" has changed over time. It used to be when you have feelings for someone from afar, and upon discussion, you're rejected, thus your feelings are "crushed." Boy, have we drifted. Nowadays, I feel like the word "crush" umbrellas ghosting. Hear me out. Your crush adds you on Snapchat, you guys talk, meet up, and eventually hook up. When this guy finds out you're investing your emotions in him, he proceeds to ghost you and your feelings still end up crushed.

Humans are made to establish connections and grow relationships and bonds between each other. You could say that catching feelings is, in a sense, inevitable. With all the heartbreak, you just get stronger and eventually the perfect man will sweep you off your feet.

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