1. Girls and boys are equally petty

The notion that girls are pettier than boys is something that has been routinely disproven through my indulgence in reality television. On the episode of “Are You the One?” aired on Wednesday, January 25th, we witnessed a large love polygon erupt on national television. While girls—namely Carolina Duarte and Kathryn Palmer—had their fair share of backstabbing, Joey Amoia and Ozzy Morales did not pass up the opportunity to splurge into name-calling and girl stealing. To say that the women of the show are less petty is an #alternativefact.

2. Sometimes it all about the money

Sure, this show is about finding your perfect match and living happily ever after. But the one million dollars (even if split twenty-two ways) is appealing. Motives can heavily influence people’s decision, making it easier for some people to move on from relationships and hurting other people.

3. It's ok to enjoy reality TV

There is nothing wrong with blocking off an hour of your day to sit back, relax, and enjoy some television…

4. However, leave the attitude to the pros

…But if you EVER act like anyone on these television shows I can guarantee you will be friendless, loveless, and/or institutionalized.

5. Appreciate your friends in big and small ways

The power of friendship is something that should not be overlooked. Friends are the people that will console you when it is revealed that Alicia Wright and Andre Siemers are not a perfect match. They will also scream “I told you so” with you at the TV with you the truth booth reveals that Carolina and Ozzy are not a match. Moments like these are not a grand gesture, but they should not be taken for granted.

6. Just because you think someone’s a perfect match does NOT mean they are

Chemistry is deceiving. Like the cast members, I have spent many weeks believing that one couple is a perfect match, only to find out that they are not. This is one of the tips that strongly relates to real life. People sometimes seem like they are perfect together, but no one knows what is really happening beneath the surface.

7. Never underestimate the bonding power of “find-your-soulmate” television

It is a long-held belief of mine that many women have some kind of secret language encoded in shows like “The Bachelor,” “The Bachelorette,” and “Are You the One?”. As a woman who has recently joined the world of Greek life, I can personally attest that nothing bonds girls like watching attractive people try to find their soul mate. Perhaps it is because deep down we want to be them, or perhaps deep down we are glad we aren’t them and simply enjoy watching the unrealistic drama unfold before us. Either way, if you ever want to make friends, offer greasy carbs and reality TV.