"Nothing is impossible; there are ways that lead to everything, and if we had sufficient will we should always have sufficient means. It is often merely for an excuse that we say things are impossible" - Francois De La Rochefoucauld
In high school, I used to wrestle. My coach had a saying that implied, "You are only cheating yourself if you don't give 100%." At that young age, I did not understand the full weight of those words, I did not understand that I had the opportunity to be great at wrestling if I only set my mind to it. Unfortunately, my mind was stuck on blaming others for my failures to reach my full potential. This problem doesn't stop with me; the majority of people create a multitude of reasons why they can't accomplish something. This list is to point out these excuses are BS and from here you can either accept that you are full of it or change your situation to grow.
1. I have no time.
There are twenty-four hours in a day. Everyone has the same amount of time to achieve whatever they want with their life. There are people who are achieving the things you claim you want to achieve. Yes, they may have a different life situation than you but not having enough time is not a good excuse. There are different ways to create more time in your life. Drop an activity, wake up early, stay up later, don't sleep, or just find a schedule that works with what you want to achieve. Cut out all of the pointless Facebook or "relaxation time" you believe you need.
2. I am too busy.
Almost the same as not having time but it is different. If you are truly busy doing many different things that you cannot follow your dreams then simply drop something. For example, If you have multiple jobs that you "need" then drop a job. Live in a struggle today to create time for yourself to develop into the person you want to be in the future.
3. I can't because I have children.
I'm not going to discredit how difficult it is to raise a child. I do believe a child should be a top priority in life and so devoting time towards that child is necessary. At the same time, your life should not be put on hold. Raise your child so they can become everything they want to be while you become everything you want to be. Children sleep, use that time to accomplish your goals. Children go to school use that time to accomplish your dreams. Ask family for help or hire a baby sitter. There are ways to free up time for yourself to develop your life the way you want to.
4. I am too _____ to do that.
There are going to be many times in life where you are not going to feel like doing something. If you lived life on feelings alone then you will not get a lot accomplished in life. You've ignored feelings before to accomplish a goal why is the feeling of tiredness preventing you from accomplishing your dreams? You wouldn't skip work because you felt too tired to do it, why skip going to the gym for the same reason?
5. I don't have enough money.
Money can be tight at times but saving is magical. It can be one hundred dollars a month, to five dollars a month but start saving until you have enough to get a jump start. Take out a loan if you feel your dream is that important, don't make the excuse money is an issue. There are plenty of ways to make quick cash but use that cash wisely. Every dollar does matter towards your future.
6. I am not smart enough.
No one is born with the knowledge of how to do something. They spent time learning and practicing to learn. We have all been around people who knew more about something than we did. They don't have a better brain than you; they spent their lives different from you. That is the reason they know more because they prioritized time to learn. You can be on their level as well if not better, just apply yourself.
7. The time isn't right to act.
Perfect does not exist in this world. If you are waiting for the right time to do whatever then you are just wasting time. This is different than having a plan and following through with a plan. If your plan requires some time, then wait, don't rush the process but don't be the person waiting for the girl to be alone before you make a move. Don't be the person to wait for the stock market to be better before you start investing. Basically, don't waste time on something that may never happen.
The message I am trying to send is, you are in control of your life. There isn't a situation stopping you from becoming what you want. People use excuses to validate why they choose not to do something. It's not that you can't do it, it's because you don't want to. When you say "I can't do this because of this," you are lying to yourself. We are all intelligent people. Find a way to get the job done because at the end of the day you did what you wanted to do or you didn't.
