When You Lose Motivation, Put Yourself In A Place To Find Some

When You Lose Motivation, Put Yourself In A Place To Find Some

Figuratively or literally – you decide.

There comes a point in a semester when everything seems to be moving fast, except you. Your brain seems to be short-circuiting, your heart is downright exhausted, and your body is just ready to tap-out. But, unfortunately, your professors have other plans for you, which means you still need to hold it together for the next couple of weeks until your very last final is over.

In my lifetime, I don't think I've ever felt such a severe lack of motivation to do anything school related. I wake up in the morning and feel an immediate urge to go right back to sleep in an attempt to avoid responsibilities. My to-do list is overwhelming and my classes have me completely drowned in projects, papers, articles, and tests. There's is nowhere and no time for me to breathe, and I'm really just barely holding on.

The reality is, everyone has semester slumps. They come usually during the second-half of the school year and right before finals. You're drained physically, mentally, and emotionally, and nothing really seems to be helping. Don't get me wrong, I've had them many times before in my life, but it's never been as bad as it is right now.

Lately, I've been trying to take a day during the week that I can dedicate to relaxation or fun. This past week, I took a little road trip to Tampa with my boyfriend, went to Volcano Bay for the day (Universal's new waterpark), and I've made sure I set time aside in a day to do something for me, which usually involves going to the movies (Thanks, Moviepass).

But no matter how hard I try to make myself relax, I never feel calm.

Whenever I am doing anything, whether it's school-related or not, I'm always thinking about everything I have to do and the little time I have to do it all. This feeling of complete overwhelm has me struggling--day in and day out.

I was talking with some friends the other day about this feeling I have that is somewhat very new to me: this complete avoidance to accomplish anything. While getting it off my chest helped in some ways and provided a little clarity, I still don't feel better. We cracked it up to be a junior year rut that every third-year college student feels, even though knowing I am not alone doesn't make me feel any better.

One thing that I've been trying to do and that has actually been somewhat working is putting myself in a place that allows me to be surrounded by hardworking individuals. This usually means going to a coffee shop for a day to figure out my life or meeting with some friends on campus between classes for a study group session. Although this does very little to alleviate my pressures, in some ways it reminds me that in order to get through this, I have to fight it.

Just this past week, as well, I ordered two copies of Darling Magazine about power and persistence in hopes of giving me some much-needed motivation. (Fun fact: they're having a major sale so their issues are only $6 when normally they are $20). I find that I feel my best when I surround myself with people, both physically and mentally, who are working hard at achieving their dreams, too.

So if you're like me, struggling to find any motivation to finish this school year, hang in there. Surround yourself with people that keep you working diligently and try as hard as you can to get in that mindset. Change your phone background to something inspirational or that sparks your creativity, and get to work. I know exhaustion can be unbearable, but if I can do it, so can you.

Hang in there.

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A Letter To My Freshman Dorm Room As I Pack Up My Things

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Dear Geary 411,

With your creaky beds, concrete walls, and mismatched tile floors, you are easily overlooked as just another room we were randomly assigned to— but you were different. Inside your old walls, I have made some of the best memories of my life that I will hold on to forever.

Thank you for welcoming my neighbors in with open arms who quickly became friends who didn't knock and walked in like you were their own.

I feel like an apology is needed.

We're sorry for blaring the music so loud while getting ready and acting like we can actually sing when, in reality, we know we can't. Sorry for the dance parties that got a bit out of control and ended with us standing on the desks. Sorry for the cases of the late-night giggles that came out of nowhere and just would not go away. Sorry for the homesick cries and the "I failed my test" cries and the "I'm dropping out" cries. We're sorry for hating you at first. All we saw was a tiny and insanely hot room, we had no idea what you would bring to us.

Thank you for providing me with memories of my first college friends and college experiences.

As I stand at the door looking at the bare room that I first walked into nine months ago I see so much more than just a room. I see lots and lots of dinners being eaten at the desks filled with stories of our days. I see three girls sitting on the floor laughing at God knows what. I see late night ice cream runs and dance battles. I see long nights of homework and much-needed naps. Most importantly, I look at the bed and see a girl who sat and watched her parents leave in August and was absolutely terrified, and as I lock you up for the last time today, I am so proud of who that terrified girl is now and how much she has grown.

Thank you for being a space where I could grow, where I was tested physically, mentally and emotionally and for being my home for a year.


A girl who is sad to go

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What I Wish I Knew About Life After High School Before I Had To Live It

Life after high school isn't always what you expected it to be.


So you're about to graduate high school and you think you have it all figured out. You and your best friends are going to stay close throughout college and you're going to take those long road trips in college to see each other. Think again.

Life after high school isn't always what you want it to be. You think you'll miss high school, you'll always be close with your high school besties, and you'll have all this free time in college. That's just not entirely true. I personally do not miss high school. I don't really talk to anyone I went to high school with on a regular basis, and I'm totally OK with that. I have friends in college that I believe will be my lifelong friends whereas my friends in high school didn't make an effort to keep in contact with me after high school.

I haven't had all the free time I've dreamed of in college, because I'm busy with school and meetings. When I'm not doing homework, I'm making sure the rest of my life is in order and all my stuff for school is in line. I'm not the crazy party girl that people think I am because of where I go to school. I'd rather sit in bed and watch Netflix than go out with my friends. I'm not a 4.0 student, but I work so hard in my classes just to make sure that I'm passing. I study a week before tests and still don't always make A's. And that's OK. It's not what I expected during my college years, but it's what's happening, and most of my friends are the same way.

Anne Marie Bonadio

Just know that life in college isn't all easy, breezy, and beautiful like Covergirl. It's hard and you will struggle whether it be in school or with your friends. College isn't always complete freedom. You'll be tied down with school and life and you won't have the free time that you always imagined. You won't always be best friends with your high school friends. You won't be taking those road trips because you won't be able to afford them, and if you're like me, your parents won't let you.

College won't be exactly what you dreamed it'll be, but it'll be some of the best years of your life.

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