Positive Self Talk Is The First Step Towards Being A Healthier Person

Positive Self Talk Is The First Step Towards Being A Healthier Person

I am taking back my power and setting myself up for success in college, and it all starts with how I talk to myself.


We hear it all the time: "Self-care is important," "You need to take care of yourself," "Put yourself first." But how many of us actually prioritize self-care, especially as college students?

I know I don't.

Since I started my first semester of college in August, I have been going through a cycle that goes something like this: Getting terrible sleep, eating like shit, letting my mental health get the best of me; realizing I need to make changes in order to do well here and to feel better; about a week of superficially "taking care of myself" to make myself feel better in the moment; getting lazy and ending up right back where I started.

We've all been there.

Today, it is my top priority to break that cycle and get to a place where I can truly thrive in college and in life in general.

So... where to start?

Before I even act on anything, I want to work on how I frame my mindset around these acts of self-care. As young people, and humans really, we tend to do things that give us immediate gratification and, now more than ever, we are losing our patience for the long processes that actually bring about real change.

That's what self-care has turned into to me. I drink a glass of water to make me feel less bloated after I ate a bunch of junk food. But will I actually start drinking a lot of water and eating better in the long term because its what's best for me? Or will I keep just drinking water to feel like I'm correcting the gross feeling I have in my body?

My goal is the first one. I want to be able to consistently take care of myself because I care about myself, not because I have to do it to make me feel better after a second of immediate gratification. That starts with how I speak to myself, which is something I have always struggled with.

How I am going to try to integrate more positive self-talk into my life is by truly thinking about the small decisions I make every day and how they reflect on how I feel about myself. Am I going to stay up late watching Netflix, knowing I am going to be exhausted in the morning or am I going to go to bed early so I can feel my best and frame my day in the way I want?

Try asking yourself questions like this before every little habit, or mentally go through your day and write down the negative option and the positive option. Then, reflect on the why. Why do I want to take proper care of myself? Why am I taking these steps to feel better?

To me, a person with clinical depression, I am making healthier decisions for myself to keep my head in the right place and not let my depression control me. I am taking my power back. I have big goals I want to accomplish while in college and I don't want to let my mind sabotage me. The best way I can do this is by taking small steps every day to be a healthier person.

We all know why self-care is important; I don't need to preach about that. But even if you know that and are still struggling to implement healthy behaviors in your everyday life, think about why you want to do these things and how you are framing your mindset surrounding the decisions you make every day.

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12 Things Only Low-Maintenance Girls Understand

I promise we aren’t lazy, just easy going.

Sometimes low-maintenance girls are looked at as lazy or sloppy. But in reality, I think low-maintenance girls are just so confident in who they are that putting in that extra effort isn't important to them.

Here are 12 things that only low-maintenance girls understand:

1. Leggings or sweat pants and a T-shirt is your normal everyday outfit

Why spend the day uncomfortable in some tight jeans or mini skirt when you can lounge around in some comfy clothes? We aren't here to impress anyone, we are just trying to sit back and chill.

2. Makeup is a special occasion

If you catch a low-maintenance girl with makeup on, take it as a compliment. We are trying to touch our face and rub our eyes as much as we'd like without makeup getting in the way. Not to mention, we wouldn't dare spend over $15 on some foundation.

3. We would rather stay in with a movie then go out for the evening

Something low-key and low stress always sounds better than spending the time, and the money, for a night out. I am perfectly content with taking advantage of my $7.99 monthly payment for Netflix.

4. You're always the first one ready

While your friends spend hours doing their hair, makeup and then finding the perfect outfit, you sit around and wait. Your 10 minutes thrown-together-look gives you time to nap while everyone else takes their sweet time.

5. When you say you "don't care what we do," you really don't care

Seriously, a date night off the McDonald's dollar menu is fine by me. I am not expecting you to wine and dine me on a big extravagant evening, I'm just trying to get a Big Mac in my mouth.

6. Your messy bun isn't a fashion statement, it's actually just your hairstyle

We aren't about to spend time curling or straightening our hair everyday. Every day is a good day to throw your hair up into a ponytail or bun.

7. The extent of your jewelry collection is one pair of earrings and maybe a necklace

Who needs more than one pair of earrings? Diamond studs match everything… right?

8. And your shoe collection is even smaller

Should I wear flip-flops or Converse?

9. Shopping isn't exactly your favorite thing to do

Who has patience for finding the perfect designer brands or finding the best fit? I am perfectly content with my T-shirts and leggings. One size fits all.

10. Your favorite gifts are the sentimental ones, not the expensive ones

A homemade card or a small gift that makes someone think of you is forever better and more meaningful than an expensive present. I don't want your money, I just want to know you thought of me.

11. You don't put in the effort to chase after a guy

I'm awesome and I know it. If a guy is worth it enough to be in my life, he can come after me. I am not down for any games or players. Just someone who embraces my low-maintenance qualities.

12. You are always the first person to help someone out

Giving your friends a ride or lending them two dollars isn't a huge deal. Just helping someone out gives you peace of mind. Everyone should have time to help a homie out.

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9 Ways For College Girls To Destress

Sit back and relax sister.


We could all blow off a little steam no matter what age, but sometimes college just seems so fast paced and crowded we get lost in the stress and quickness of class on top of class and some students even hold jobs on top of that. So to all the super stressed gals out there, here are a few tips on how to take a few minutes out of your day to have some time to yourself!

1. Have a spa night


Buy some face masks and invite some friends over or even turn on your favorite movie and have a spa night to yourself!

2. Go on a drive


Turn on your favorite playlist and just drive around your town or even a mini road trip! Long drives really relax a lot of people.

3. Cry


Yes, I know that sounds like a joke but sometimes all you need is a good cry so turn on your sad music playlist (I know you have one, everyone has one) or your favorite tear jerking movie and let the tears flow girl!

4. Laugh


On a happier note... crying isn't for everyone! I, for one, am not an emotional person so humor is more my style. Go see a funny movie, hang out with your friends, or watch a comedy show! Anything to get you laughing!

5. Go to the gym


This one is good for you mentally and physically! A lot of people say the gym is their favorite place simply because its where they can blow off all of their steam. Try it! If you like it, it's a great new hobby to have!

6. Try a new hobby


Try something to get your mind off of whatever is stressing you out! It could be painting, writing, singing, or dancing! Whatever you want to give a shot at doing, go for it!

7. Go online shopping


I only recommend this one if you have money to spend. If you have no self control (like myself) then this one can get you into some trouble! Shop wisely people! But don't forget to treat your self every now and then!

8.Try out a new sport


A lot of colleges have intramural teams you can join of almost any sport you can think of! Try one out to take your mind off whatever is causing you stress!

9. Take a nap


I know this seems kind of self explanatory but a lot of times we forget that sleep is kind of a thing that we need to survive. So if your stress is causing you to lose sleep, or your staying up late working on classwork, then take a nap!

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